every time i see someone in a discord casually call themselves an ableist slur b/c they don't know how to do something and think that there's something wrong with them because of it (usually st-- or id--) I kinda wanna take them by the shoulders and go "do you understand that not knowing how to do something doesn't mean you're not 'smart'? that the whole point of learning new things is that you don't know yet and you are trying to learn?"
learned helplessness is. so frustrating to see because people use it to destroy themselves in a thousand different ways just to avoid the remote chance that they'll fail at something, and i wish i could help people understand that the more they just assume they can't learn to do something the more they set themselves up for not being able to.
failure is part of the process. please. just let it happen. you'll be ok. you'll figure it out.
I literally told a coworker yesterday "If you tell yourself you can't get better at something, you will not get better at something"
Also, this isn't just about helping yourself, it's about helping the people around you by taking real accountability, because calling yourself names isn't accountability for anything and helps zero people. Accountability means acknowledging you are able to learn and to improve.
Others may help you but you have to take the first step yourself, which is believing that you can learn, that you can do your own research, and that even if you misstep along the way, it's still worth it to learn new things. Once you do that, not only does it help you, it helps you help others better, too.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
