Multiple major manufacturers of plugs and cables, have announced that the regular “male” and “female” connector terms, will be replaced with “girl cock” and “boy pussy” respectively.
the actual for real answer to this is that the terminology used in most specifications i've run into is "plug" and "socket" or "receptacle"
which is pretty neutral!
the male/female designation seems(?) to be made up by probably, idk, techs and engineers?
but also you can absolutely have plugs with holes and sockets with pins if you want to get fun with it
