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Amoni-The-Sabertooth
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I was having at first, a laugh with someone I called a friend when I started saying I was Bi.

But apparently, the way I explained myself made them see me as trans, and egg.

While I do now see myself as Genderfluid, at the time this... casual dismissivness of "Oh, you're an egg." Or "Oh, okay egg.", like, not even calling me by my (what is now my dead)name they knew me by but just labeling me as 'egg' just felt so fucking rude and frustrating.

It hurt too cuz I felt confident in expressing my current feelings of self with them. Just stung.

Let people discover themselves, do not ever argue with them, that you know what they are.


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in reply to @wintersouls's post:

imo, the best way to support a person you think may be trans is to be a "heatlamp": provide a kind environment and do your best to let them know they will be safe and supported around you regardless of their gender identity or presentation. just be a good friend, really. you don't hatch an egg by breaking the shell before they're ready!

exactly!!

the focus should be on being a safe place for people to explore their identity without pressure or judgement. to give them a space to explore on their own terms

i think it's also important that we try to create safe shared spaces where people are doing this for each other

and i believe these safe spaces are undermined when people start going "you must be X because you do/feel Y" as if it were universal

yeah like, trans people aren't a monolith and we can't expect everyone's transitions to look the same

people still maintain individuality, at the end of the day! there's not very much we can take as universal evidence that someone is trans or a particular gender

we didn't jump out of one box to be sorted into another by people who barely know us, yknow?