Angel Dragonpants

I've been trying to not-so-subliminally message my small group of friends into trying lancer with me and pretty much none of them interested so I feel your pain.

The only ways I've seen this happen are 1) talk your existing friend group into doing it, or 2) Discord server

honestly you'd be surprised just asking everyone you know, how many people are up for it or already into it, at least in my experience. you also might be able to find a group if you go to one of those local non-chain game/nerd shop type places, if any still exist around you. some places organize LFG events!

the actual answer is to find a group when you're 14 before everyone has jobs and it becomes impossible to schedule anything :(

The one time I've gotten someone to play a TTRPG with me was when I asked a friend if they'd be interested, and when they said yes, I immediately opened a rulebook to help them start creating a character.

I watched my partner make this magic happen in real time and it was honestly like watching a Lion herd gazelle lmao it's a skill beyond us mortals I think

the shortcut: find someone who can collude with you

then start a recurring event and just Be Okay if it's you two, but once a third starts showing up you can start gaining momentum. You want to start with two already colluding so it's not awkward for the newcomer imo

In my experience, when one of your friends is getting married, you hang out with the people who live in your city until one of them causally mentions running a D&D game, and you grasp onto that with all of the desperation of a drowning man and invite yourself to join their campaign.

Honestly, it's hard. You can find pickup games at like a hobby store, but there is a very high probability that at least one person in your group will be the most unpleasant person that you've ever interacted with. I think the common strategy is to find one of those groups & suffer through a month or two of games while decoding the group's internal politics, with the end goal of sussing out who is both fun to be around and also who won't snitch when you splinter off to play a different game.

I've heard pretty good things about creating a social media platform that attracts people who like mechs and ttrpgs and lancer, so I think you're well on your way, honestly

local friendly game stores can be hit or miss because a lot of them are just DnD and Only That. but you might as well try it!

you might also try the Hearth https://openhearthgaming.com/ which has free online games centered around indie ttrpgs.

I told the people I already play another ttrpg with if they wanted to play lancer and since they're massive mecha dorks they bent over backwards in order to find a slot in our schedule.

Also, lancer does have a discord server where people try to organize games, you can always try there.

my ttrpg group basically resulted from a guy asking everyone at my job yeah. it's months between sessions lol

have a more social friend date someone who is cool and then separate amicably in a way that you can stay friends with both of them

You have a couple choices!!

You can talk to friends and gauge interest. Once you get one or two friends you can ask them if they have friends who want to join. And once you get 1 GM and 3-5 players you got a group! It's easiest if you're the GM in this case.

You can also put up ads at local comic/game stores. Lots of places have meetup boards for this exact purpose. You're taking a chance with randos, but I've had more success than failure!

There's also online groups and putting up requests on forums or social media. Those are a little more volatile. But my current group I got by making a post on Twitter and having some people show up on discord! We've been going for three years now.

Me and my best friend started playing dnd together with like one other person in high school, and then various other people filed in and out of the group for a while until now where I'm in the same group of 4 (plus or minus 2) people that play games together usually at least once a month. Idk how this helps but that's what I did lol

Moved to a new area and my partner and another friend just went to conventions to meet folks and ended up organizing a group by leaving flyers and meeting folks during one-shots.

get lucky and join a discord with other queer people, or in my most recent case, ask friends in an mmo you play

What I usually do is check the various lfg subreddits and ttrpg discords. Some of the discords will have a role that pings you when a game is posted.

The risk with this is gettin' stuck with gross randos and it can take a couple months to find the right group. (Hell of a lot easier when you're the one running the game)

For Lancer specifically, their discord is your best bet. The have good moderation policies.

making friends is so. hard. i feel like since 2020 especially & with not drinking anymore my bonding machine is straight broke & even when i find a way to meet new people (difficult enough) i don't know what to like... do about it....... it's all a mystery to me now & it really can get to be a bummer

i gotta admit, being a furry and talking to other furries is pretty much the only way ive made friends in the last 7 years and i dont know how i would have done it otherwise

"how do you make friends when you're 30" is such a mood

be poly, in my experience

if you manage to find an answer, please lemme know. so far, i've had some success with "be really loud about your obsessions and someone might eventually want to join along."

I usually ask my friends to play a game and make a discord server or the like to host it on. Its super helpful if you're willing to run things since having a game facilitator is the biggest stumbling block

Unfortunately as for finding friends I've mostly done it by hanging out in trpg spaces and running games

Lol, mood, making friends as an adult is hard