okay maybe it's the 5am kicking in but I think there's a commonality of gender between "grunglers" (by which I mean "cis men who hang out with a bunch of trans people") and trans men, not just in both being men, but in both of them specifically choosing intentionally to be men with the full knowledge that other possibilities exist and in so doing constructing a kind of non-toxic masculinity that works for them rather than letting it be dictated by the normative bindings of the culture at large
I feel like it really strongly captures something about me. I am in fact a cis guy with many trans people in my life, and I've always felt like I have a lot in common with trans men, and this post made me understand why for the first time.
