This post has content warnings for: Criticisms of current anti-suicide culture.
This post has content warnings for: suicide, continuation of above discussion.
video gams 🎮
- any pronouns
- 444631.xyz/
Alastar Gabriel (but you can call me anything). I'm an ex-professional software developer, now I make weird art and music :p I will give you bug facts unprompted
Twitch, Ko-fi, Neocities, Mastodon
We can be friends but I have to warn you, I am a little awkward and kind of hard to get ahold of :p
ENG/日本語 OK
website
444631.xyz/dreamwidth
artificialangel.dreamwidth.org/mastodon
tech.lgbt/@artificialangelTumblr (I probably won't use this one much)
www.tumblr.com/444631You must log in to comment.
in reply to @GwenStarlight's post:
I am so happy you said this... When i had suicidal ideation all i got was "dont" and no solutions...
It makes me feel so lost and confused that as a society we've just accepted that it's normal for massive swathes of people to be passively or actively suicidal at all times and we just have to deal with this with platitudes and assuming everyone's gonna get better someday.
I think this post might be the first time I've ever seen someone directly talk about that like this and it makes me feel a little less thrown aside just to see someone else acknowledge it.
damn fo real tho. also i feel like the anti suicide stuff makes it so you can never discuss suicidal ideation with anyone u know, which makes it more isolating .
it really does. when we were feeling that frequently, we knew we werent gonna do it. but it sure made things worse to feel like we couldnt say anything about it lest we get a bunch of people telling us not to do it. or to say a big ol preface like "im fine im fine" when the whole point was we werent fine
In my experience the bulk of the people who are willing to initially talk about it get frustrated when the problem isn't a quick fix, when their projected solution doesn't work.
They feel like it's a slap in the face that things aren't instantly better when they just say their piece, that because the pain persists and their points can't get past that sort of mental "barrier" people with suicidal ideation reflexively set up, that you are insulting them somehow.
With that we concluded that people don't want to put in the time and effort to truly help, they just want to feel like they're helping and to get the satisfaction of that.
That what they want is just a positive affirming response that is, in essence, the same calling to "put a lid on it" all the while making them feel good about their attempts at prosocial action.
They only care as long as its easy and gratifying for them, not when it actually requires time, work, and stepping outside what they think they know.