Can't host your own site?
Then sign up here: https://subscribestar.adult/
There's no telling if and when they might change tack themselves, but branding themselves overtly as an adult site provides some sense of comfort over Patreon.
Feel up to hosting your own?
Would you rather have a more robust and long-term solution to be a little more self-reliant and independent? Do like I did.
I installed https://wordpress.com on my own VPS
I installed https://s2member.com on top of that.
The bottom line when shopping around for options here is YOUR HOSTING.
I won't recommend any cause I can't take responsibility for someone getting banned off of it, but my rule of thumb is: the cleaner and prettier the frontpage is, the less porn-friendly it likely is.
Unfortunately, the more lenient and open (and often barebones) a webhosting service becomes, the harder it gets to set up your own wordpress site.
I can't teach you how to do that.
Once you get wordpress installed, most of the rest of the work is made much, much easier for you.
If that hasn't scared you off, then you should probably shop around for an alternative subscriptions plugin to s2member cause that just so happens to be the one I landed on because of 🌈reasons🌈 and it isn't necessarily the best for you.
I'll try and answer simple questions but that's about all I can share without delving into specifics like how to install packages on a server and set up your own domain.
I'm sorry I can't help with that, but I've done my time already.
Either way, I hope this proves useful.
Rechost to save a kink artist's life, etc etc.
I hope folks get through this relatively unscathed. Good luck out there.