BLVCKFEINT

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@BLVCKFEINT

god's favorite mistake

🌱 29 | graphic designer, plant parent +
iced coffee fiend

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vurren
@vurren

the energy we try to go into this site with:

being "mutuals" does not matter. "mutuals" is an illusion of actual friendship. we treat everyone like they are an acquaintance, unless proven otherwise. we leave nice comments on people's posts who we don't follow and who don't follow us, and we welcome and accept nice comments from people who don't follow us or who we dont follow back. we accept change in these dynamics, because we understand enough friendly conversation can become something more than two random people on a website. we assert our boundaries but we dont treat non-friends as never-friends

we have been on too many websites where mutuals were treated as holy and anyone otherwise was a stranger. to us, this is social media for those who actually want to be social. we hope you all will feel that, too

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FoolMoon
@FoolMoon

god, I needed to hear this to kick me in the pants and use the "social" aspect of social media more. I've been a habitual lurker for most of my life, and I can tell you... it doesn't make you a lot of friends.

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vurren
@vurren

hey, it's alright, we were there once too. it's scary interacting with people!! it's scary making the first move and the fear of messing up is real. it's possible though, and when it works it's so rewarding! we're glad we could change your perspective, and we wish you luck on socializing :]

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Nineboat
@Nineboat

We're all sitting in the same cafe/bar, some in different corners but sometimes we overhear each other. There are no booths but you can delete individual users from our experience of the place.
This is the Cafe AU.

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arthallea
@arthallea

i really hope so, that would make me feel so relieved. i thought "mutuals" was something fun but then people put WAY too much stock in it, and i ended up getting the opposite end of this phenomenon where people i had never spoken to before would approach me with this presumed closeness and say some really not great things to a stranger simply because i followed them back. i've almost been afraid to become mutuals with people now because of that. so, both for people who want to feel brave enough to speak to someone regardless of mutual status and for people like me who became afraid of unwarranted comments, this really seems like the best measure!!

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