I think some people have an idealized vision of unions/socialism/anarchism or whatever system they'd rather be in where they no longer have to deal with bad people they don't like or get along with and from my understanding that's the opposite of how things work
no, yeah, we're an anarchist and a labor organizer and all that but the solution to the hard problems is to talk them through. these political theories and strategies are all about creating an environment where the talking can happen. at least to us.