It's one more X than porn so you know it's gonna be great. GET the FUCK in here
I am running an online game jam from July 1st 2024 until September 30th 2024 with the sole purpose of encouraging other game developers (of any level) (and anyone else - the game format is entirely optional) to lean into artsy bullshit as much as possible. To (if they haven't already) read outside game design theory and engineering and into the philosophical and art worlds. To voice frustrations with those worlds too. To act on critical impulse. To get lost in the flow of being an artsy wanker - not out of ridicule of "real" artsy wankers but being that artsy wanker with as much of yourself as you can commit. Join us.
It turns out, if you want to navigate having a "weird" kink or fixation in mixed company and be broadly accepted, the phrase "hey, is this up your alley?" as a preamble to sharing anything with anyone is basically a skeleton key.
Really. That simple. Just ask before getting into anything that could be divisive. That's the key- consent.
This sounds super sarcastic but I am being 100% earnest, this shit is easy to forget
In general, speaking your intent in plain, unambiguous, and unemotional language helps bridge so so so many gaps when it comes to avoiding conflict and confusion. 90% of the conflicts I've ever come into with someone came about because one party or both felt they needed to hide their intent or feelings for some reason or another, when the truth is, you can snuff out most problems early simply by being honest, but kind- treat people like they deserve to be spoken to plainly, treat yourself like someone who deserves to make their thoughts and feelings known- have a soft heart, and the world is a softer place.
I know that sounds reductive, simple, even, but genuinely- treat people like they deserve not to be deceived or given half-truths, treat them with respect and kindness, and your "rough edges" smooth away no matter how strange they may be. I've made a diverse and wonderful group of friends who know the whole of me, even the things they have nothing in common with, and that honestly, respect, and kindness I know plays the biggest part.
I blanked out all the names here because (1) i don't wanna dunk on anyone specific but also (2) i don't want to fall into the very trap of vagueposting that I'm complaining about. I'm talking specifically about the second post in the screenshot above which I've seen floating around a lot on my timeline, and how it seems to have affected the person in the post above it.
Regardless of how true a post is, or who it's "supposed" to target, this kind of vagueposting is always going to hurt unintended targets. I get that venting is important but this is, in fact, a public space. If a post gets shared a bunch, it's going to get interpreted all kinds of ways, and so specificity is incredibly important.
So please for the love of your fellow creatures, either be specific when you write something grumpy in public, vent in a more private space, or at the very least disable shares to mitigate the potential harm. It fucking sucks to see a post floating around that may or may not be directed at you, since directly calling it out makes you look like an asshole anyway. It's a lose-lose situation so let's just, not fucking do it anymore okay thanks