Dex

Big hearted fluffdragon...

...fictional ex-90s platformer mascot, nerd, plural, Ī˜Ī”.


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feybeasts
@feybeasts

the problem with having shades of plurality in how my mental conversations tend to go is the same problem with how I relate to my gender identity or therian leanings- people who spend too long thinking about and defining and arguing over and putting those things in stupid little boxes start paying too much attention to me when I mention them, and I find that attention odious.

Like. I guess it’s different if I’m discussing that stuff with friends, but making things that are so personal the core of my identity or something to go to war over just because I don’t use the right words or echo the right people or say the right things is just… gross. It’s so personal, why on earth would you think that’s something I want to be in a fucking clique about??


feybeasts
@feybeasts

There’s a fox in my head that tells me to be nice to me and is making me more like her every day, I don’t feel like I was born in the right body in may different ways, and my gender is ā€œfuckedā€

I don’t care to discuss details, and I don’t give a fuck what labels you want to apply to that. Simple as.


pearshapes
@pearshapes

ive always found the... mm
frankly absurd... categorisation some folkses go to to break up and sort the details of system identity to be obnoxious. like no offense to people who do that stuff, i respect what youre trying to do and it really can be interesting to try doing that, but it ultimately leads to a lot of conflict that just isnt necessary in my opinion

and, i think the real kicker of it is that it obfuscates information for people who actually want to understand systems!! having to sift through countless arbitrary definitions for things that might not even be applicable in their entirety for existing systems is an exercise in futility, and i think ppl need to recognise that trying to box these fluid identities in is only ever going to limit genuine expression

a friend of mine recently came to me talking about system identity, and frankly i think i did a bad job with the resource i sent them. it was just... reams upon reams of terminology, and none of it had any real application in the conversation. i genuinely felt bad for confusing them with that. nobody should have to deal with this when they're only just figuring themselves out

i worry a lot about other systems trying to box me in the same way they've boxed themselves, and i do not want that. i think it's condescension towards me and my complexities to even try to label my system members as this or that, or classify me as traumagenic or endogenic or whatever the fuck.

i am a system. i love being all of me

anyway this is rambly. no sig im on mobile sorry


Dex
@Dex

yeah. we're just we're.

we've looked over the words
and it's maybe helpful from a "another system named our particular flavour that not many others seem to have" perspective
but we reserve no brain space for remembering the specifics

we take on labels when it changes the way we navigate through the world.
"pansexual" does that.
"aromantic" does that
"non-binary" does that

but the specific one in this case provides no additional change for us over the base "plural".
we're just trying to do the best we can, and knowing we're this specific flavour as a whole (or šŸ’œ is this, za yinglet is zhat, 🩷 is something else entirely)... wouldn't change anything.

if knowing the specifics does change things for you, more power to you - but everyone's just trying to do the best job they can. We as a system can discuss the details of what that means for us, but we don't need a catchy name for them


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