Dex

Big hearted fluffdragon...

...fictional ex-90s platformer mascot, nerd, plural, Ξ˜Ξ”.


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shel
@shel
This post has content warnings for: Not so vague call out post, Alcohol.

kda
@kda

The person in question has tried to ice at least eleven friends of mine out of the Boston furry community, with varying degrees of "success", based on a mix of DARVO, other such misrepresentation of events, and straight up lying. (And have displayed a long pattern of manipulative, even cruel treatment toward others outside that community, from what I've seen.)

To punish them for having "bad vibes". To punish them for ceasing to be friends with their own actively dangerous friends. To punish them for being a partner of a friend of their designated enemy of the day. And, as far as I'm aware, for even more petty reasons than that.

Living on the other side of the continent from them and having mostly detached from their entire circle long ago, I figured I should probably wait until locals decided that the time was right to do something about this person, and, well, they've made that decision now.

This is not a person who, with their current approach to conflict "resolution" and personality generally, should be running a local furry group chat, let alone a furmeet, let alone the 7th largest furry con in the world.


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in reply to @shel's post:

I don't feel like I'm being those things by posting this but hopefully it'll do something to help the people who are trepidatiously trying to improve their own situations but are afraid since unlike me their livelihood is tied into furry

...people who saw this happening still decided they'd rather [other thing] than idk fucking talk to me about [it]...

ugh I'm so sorry you gotta deal with shit. I know nothing about this situation other than what you've shared, but I hope you're able to find some peace and happiness away from cults of personality or people who don't have your best interests in mind. Take care πŸ’œ

Thanks for talking about this. I think a few of us have been aware of various tensions and were just not ready to say anything out loud...

Tangentially I also want to just like generally thank you for being accepting of me way back when I was choosing to be a furry again... I get why it's a thing you're through with & I support you - just want to acknowledge and express gratitude bc having someone to share that with made a big difference for me and I probably wouldn't have done any of that if it weren't for you and Nicky. <3

After having recently been through β€œbeing cast as an abuse victim by someone with a bone to pick against my own will” i can say it fucking sucks and I’m sorry you’ve been going through that and more. Your distance from all of this is very understandable

There's literally nothing you can say to people to get them to stop too because everything you say just gets reconstructed as "see that's just how manipulated she is...."

you didnt deserve anything that happened to you there. that whole incident less destroyed furry for me and more just lessened my faith in humanity in general. the way everyone closed ranks around you, and then also me, and then those same people all got axed out for various reasons anyway...though i didnt leave furry my attention and effort since has gone towards union organizing for a reason. im glad they're getting whats been a long time coming, but unfortunately i have little faith that whatever organization replaces it will be any meaningfully different. it will be some power hungry person who wants to live out their college popularity fantasy they never got to have who knows how to get scared autists who are looking for the first group to actually connect with them to do their bidding until they're disposable

in reply to @kda's post:

very sorry you both have had to deal with this piece of shit. relieved at least that people are finally wising up to their abuse. they are dangerously manipulative and entitled, and drove my partner from the fandom (and art in general). hopefully enough will surface in the coming days that we can stop dancing around theiR Exact naMe, Yknow?

Oh, from the sounds of things, I'm fairly certain that it's going to take more than a few days,

but when it comes, it's going to be. Uh. A lot. Honestly makes me wonder what kind of spillover there's going to be into the relevant person's life outside of furry. :x