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KneecapRock
@KneecapRock

seriously it's like a fucking super power, how do you roll with the weight of judgement looming over you

there are people who can and do do this and it astounds me every time


garudina
@garudina

well the main thing is a radical and aggressive acceptance that you too are worthy of patience and gentleness, because "embracing cringe" is all about not castigating yourself for being something that someone else thinks is bad

there is a time and a place for accepting the input of others but "cringe" is just an adolescent reaction to that first moment of consciousness that other people can see you and form opinions about you based on what they see, the horror movie realization that you're not alone

carrying that on into your adulthood is a natural result of inertia but also something you can arrest and discard intentionally, because it isn't helping you with anything, and even if it was, do you really deserve that kind of abuse for being abnormal? do you think other people deserve that abuse too?

maybe you think everyone deserves to be bullied into being normal - in which case I can do nothing to help you until you're ready to discard that idea, and let me point to all the horror and hell that's emerged across the internet as a result of that ideology, the worst websites and their atrocious cultural impact, if you needed help thinking of reasons to put it in the trash

but I don't think this is you, dear reader, because those kinds of people don't really show up on cohost. thus assuming you don't think that abusing people for being weird is good, then I have to ask why you think you-specifically deserve that abuse when clearly nobody else does. there's various things I could say after this but it's kind of case-by-case as to why any given individual would have this idea demonstrably installed in their worldview and thus how to undermine and remove it


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in reply to @KneecapRock's post:

being able to just dive into your honest and genuine heartfelt feelings is something truly worth celebrating, and cringe pushes you away from that.

So let your whole heart enjoy celebrating those things and remember that the "judgment" you fear is just a theoretical fear that doesnt help you, its a warped mental model that's layered on you and tries to burden you, its not productive and not based on what's real and what's best for you. Its a patchwork mess of everyone's anxieties bundled up collectively over each other, made partially because of the ambiguous gaps between people. Remember that your feelings, especially your joys, are more important than any such fabrication. Give yourself the empathy that you would give to a friend who is talking to you about worrying about particular cringe things.

I don't know, but from experience, I can say it's 100% possible. Like 5-6 years ago cringe hurt bad, and today I don't notice it. I mean I think for me personally quitting reddit helped, as did explicitly training myself to accept unironic enjoyment of things, as did changing the communities I hung out with, as did finding more self worth.

All of those probably helped, as did a ton of other things - accepting neurodivergence, hanging out with a ton of trans ppl, idk. the specific thingn may or may not help you. But regardless it is possible to change.

Really though, for me the biggest thing that started it all was probably quitting reddit (and not migrating to similar sites like hackernews). It's really, really hard to embrace legitimate love for things when you're immersed in one or more communities of people whose self worth is propped up on being too good to enjoy the world as it is.

in reply to @garudina's post:

if you really wanna play with fire consider that Based, the proffered opposite of Cringe, is defined mainly by doing exactly what you think you should in the moment without caring about the judgment and recrimination of others. the only difference between these things is whether you care what others think of you