seriously it's like a fucking super power, how do you roll with the weight of judgement looming over you
there are people who can and do do this and it astounds me every time
well the main thing is a radical and aggressive acceptance that you too are worthy of patience and gentleness, because "embracing cringe" is all about not castigating yourself for being something that someone else thinks is bad
there is a time and a place for accepting the input of others but "cringe" is just an adolescent reaction to that first moment of consciousness that other people can see you and form opinions about you based on what they see, the horror movie realization that you're not alone
carrying that on into your adulthood is a natural result of inertia but also something you can arrest and discard intentionally, because it isn't helping you with anything, and even if it was, do you really deserve that kind of abuse for being abnormal? do you think other people deserve that abuse too?
maybe you think everyone deserves to be bullied into being normal - in which case I can do nothing to help you until you're ready to discard that idea, and let me point to all the horror and hell that's emerged across the internet as a result of that ideology, the worst websites and their atrocious cultural impact, if you needed help thinking of reasons to put it in the trash
but I don't think this is you, dear reader, because those kinds of people don't really show up on cohost. thus assuming you don't think that abusing people for being weird is good, then I have to ask why you think you-specifically deserve that abuse when clearly nobody else does. there's various things I could say after this but it's kind of case-by-case as to why any given individual would have this idea demonstrably installed in their worldview and thus how to undermine and remove it
