aidan
@aidan

it's a behavior that i had kind of unlearned over the years since leaving Tumblr and moving almost entirely to Twitter, and for good reason! A lot of times, these things feel like Entering Into A Contract with the followee, and sometimes this contract is even codified into follow-for-follow type behaviors to juice numbers.

my own strategy kind of ends up at "oh, i like this post a lot! i'll click into this person's blog" and then i'll toss a follow if their first half dozen posts or so pique my interest. (hell, that bar is sometimes "if their posts aren't things i actively dislike!") It honestly hasn't failed me yet; obviously YMMV if you have more stringent or specific triggers/preferences. I don't think i've unfollowed anyone that i've followed this way, and i'm the type of person who fully subscribes to a "hit da bricks" philosophy when it comes to stuff i don't like or don't care for. More often than not, that rando i just followed writes some sort of essay length exploration of A Thing I Dont Care For and i come out the other side Caring For that thing. It's neat!

just follow people! :host-plead:

it's easy, free, and totally reversible.

give it a shot :D


astral
@astral
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chaoticevilspacewitch
@chaoticevilspacewitch

I have made a lot of friends across many platforms by just being "Oh you look cool, I'm gonna follow you!"
And some of them have become great long-term friends. Some of them are just casual acquaintances, some of them we ended up not really getting along and quickly went our separate ways.
You won't know unless you try.


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in reply to @aidan's post:

At one point on twitter I declared a personal moratorium on following new people for attention bandwidth reasons, but then I realized what I'd actually done is locked in all my early biases (typical young-dude-in-tech ones, not enough non-men/poc/non-tech). Giving up on reading Every Tweet and just following people was a great move.

This is precisely what my strategy has been and I’ve had identical results: thought-provoking essays, interesting stories, in-depth reviews of games I’ve never heard of, frank commentary on creative industries, hobby infodumps… The more people I follow on the basis of “I see a handful of things on their feed that I enjoyed skimming”, the more varied and valuable my feed becomes.

yeah good tangent / internet Tall Tale always gets a follow from me if their first few posts don't have red flags. Worked out on twitter, mastodon and now here.

But here you can't do the trick of following everyone they follow who looks cool to you to bootstrap a feed, which is better overall but makes things slower

i notice more and more that im reading way more information than i realize just through my periphery. i saw those chost and i just saw the header and top lines, got up to go get ready for bed, but i was thinkin "if you don't like it, hit da bricks" before i came back and read the rest

in reply to @astral's post:

I love that cohost don't immediately show you your follower count. I can still check my followers through one of the sidebar links, but I don't always have the urge to.

I hate that from sites like Twitter I was conditioned to be attached to my follower count. Unfollows feels personal, but they shouldn't be. Not everyone unfollows because they hate the person they used to follow or if that person is problematic, usually it's just sometimes you just don't click with that person and their posts.

i feel like i need to do some spring cleaning with my follow lists on tumblr and such. there are folks i've been following on there since like.... years ago now who aren't even posting anymore, sure, but there's some who are and half the time i'm not interested in the things they are anymore. we're just internet neighbors with not much in common

well, i agree in general.

but i gotta say, on twitter it was more personal. or maybe just more "intimate"/raw? with just a line or two to go from "never have i ever" to "from here on forwards i will read all your posts (but actually im just inviting the algo to put your stuff in front of me from time to time.)" ... so an unfollow... perhaps after you posted an (from your pov) especially good joke or whatever stung a lot...

now that i am basically following anyone who submits anything interesting... with posts being arbitrarily long and ACTUALLY providing a basis to decide what interests me and what not... and also without seeing a badge of who follows me, now that is some nice ux.