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in reply to @renkotsuban's post:
White Tears, Brown Scars also by Ruby Hamad is a really good expansion on this article- for those looking for more. it changed the way i see So Much
Oooh I've had this book on my to-read list for ages (pretty much ever since I first read the Hamad article above, haha). Really need to clear my TBR list and get to this one sooner rather than later ahaha
I can only guess the absolute IKEA-bland, spam-textured hair culture we have and like the pure sense of ownership of others peoples cultures and bodies just ramming together.
Had a middle aged lady ask to touch me (an interesting difference that she got consent first) and I have like the most standardised curly hair in the world. Like how is it interesting lol? Hair culture like less a shallow pool and more a pit with a thin film of salt water in it.
omg that is so creepy, that is good that she did at least (???) ask for consent first but still, wtf 😭😭😭
in reply to @renkotsuban's post:
Translation: "Don't tell me to be aware of my biases, I was enjoying my blissful ignorance"
Seriously!! Like I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but white queers are uhhh (checks notes) ALSO WHITE 😭
Say it with me now, folks
If someone is complaining about how a non-marginalized group acts, but their complaint does not apply to the things you do, then it doesn't apply to you, it's time to move on
source: me, a white woman
I saw @sharksonaplane describe it as "good people know 'if it doesn't apply, let it fly'" which is such a catchy way to put it ahaha
Nothing like a witty catchy one-liner to stop people from being weirdo assholes online lol
i saw an unrelated post the other day that was like "it wasn't about you until you made it about you, dipshit", which i feel applies perfectly to this sort of dynamic here