sometimes they just Happen, yknow. we wake up and its not audie, but how do i help them Come Out, how do the other systems i know do this so well
its getting harder, maybe they just need their own channels of communication, but i dont know where to begin
spoiler alert: they don't
basically every other system is exactly as confused as you are, if not more so. plurality is this thing that confuses literally everyone and causes all sorts of existential crises and this is just how it WORKS. this is how it works for EVERYONE
so, you know, don't feel bad if you get an existential crisis every now and then, that's literally what plurality does~
and as for helping new members emerge: usually they just do that on their own as long as you let them, it just takes time~