anyway the reason im setting up a new discord server without getting into specifics is. i've been in this semi-private (open to invitations) server run by a friend for a little while and, one person there. they have something similar to the old tumblr/current twitter mentality of "I dislike [thing] therefore [thing] is Bad, and if you like [thing] you're Bad as well". it doesn't crop up often with them until recently, but they've been inviting a lot of people with the same sort of mentality (even some who have been or still are getting harassed by other people who think the same way!) and it's been causing problems. it's at the point that i'd say over half the active users are like this, and the initial problem individual got given moderator permissions today. so all that, combined with the fact that they seem to at least passively be targeting me and trying to goad me into saying something they can use as ammunition, is driving me to create a more closed-off space they cannot enter
