really though, parents shouldn't have to meet some kind of threshold of abusiveness for their children to deserve privacy from them
even if your parents are 100% supportive! it's still important to be able to vent after an argument, or do a "hey is it normal for your parents to..." check-in, or even something as silly as saying your dad's music is cringe. there is no family so healthy that it would work better as a panopticon.
and honestly i feel like having that kind of surveillance + power over people breeds worse behavior from those who have it
Yeah, it's like... how TSA is only supposed to search for weapons but if they happen to find drugs they can't just ignore a crime in progress, right? It's hard to make an argument against the scope creep without sounding like you're defending drug smuggling.
Anyway, same deal with parents who were only checking for safety issues but just happen to find disrespect
not least bc any family that’s actually healthy would want one another to have privacy
Privacy is a basic, fundamental human right. You shouldn't even need to fucking justify it. It's a psychological need, an aspect of being in control of your environment. You cannot create a sense of safety if terms are dictated from outside.
