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spookybiscuits
@spookybiscuits

i've reached this point where i rly dont think amab and afab are useful outside of like, real deep discussion of queer topics like intersectionality, transmisogyny/transmisogynoir, socialization, trauma, etc. if someone asks if i'm amab/afab i hit the bricks, because more often than not they'll just treat me as my agab lol. if we're choppin it up discussion style, maybe that info is useful. otherwise hi, i'm non-binary and yeah i was born that way :3


FaeAlchemist
@FaeAlchemist

In our experience, if they don't treat you as the gender you were assigned at birth, they're probably gonna treat you as a binary trans person of the "opposite" gender.


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in reply to @spookybiscuits's post:

Insistance on knowing this in an online space can be indicative of a person being the sort who treats others in different ways based on binary gender, and doesn't know how to behave if they don't know which binary gender someone is. When encountering someone nonbinary, such people can go "ok, but, like, which of the two should I think of you as?" and think that's polite. Because in their world, they need that information to not be rude. And because they have no concept of anything else, it can be exhausting to try to explain it to them.

The obsessive needing to know "agab" is probably the best filtering tool if you're trying to construct an online environment of people who aren't stuck in that binary cultural framework. Because people for whom gender has little impact on how they treat others don't generally care unless the conversation is about it.