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We're a Bunch of Weirdos

  • Mostly she/her

Hi! We're a fairly diverse plural system with various origins and interests! ADHD, autism, likely BPD. Uhm... Yeah, gonna work on this a bit more soon?



plumpan
@plumpan

tiny PSA: cohost intentionally does not make it obvious when someone is following you. So the concept of "mutuals" is a bit more "person I actually know outside of The Cohost" and less "oh this person is following me already".

This is by design and I'd argue ultimately a good thing, but it's important to keep in mind if you're making posts mentioning "if we're mutuals", which I've seen a few times now.


lexyeevee
@lexyeevee

i was just thinking about this, and the stark contrast with twitter where people have a little "i'm listening to you" badge which at least gives me something to go on

here i'm not really sure who i'm talking to, except for a small number of people who leave comments sometimes

it's weird. i dunno. i glanced at tumblr earlier and now i'm feeling Pensive


anyway there is sort of an opt-in hack around this: you can add "links" to your profile that are only visible to follows or only visible to followers, and they don't actually have to be links.

so you can deliberately broadcast to your follows that you do follow them, if you like, and everyone else won't even know you're doing it

hmm i'm tagging this but i don't think replies show up in bookmarked tag feeds


DiscoDeerDiary
@DiscoDeerDiary

It's interesting cause when I think of the word "mutuals" as applied to Cohost I think of it as more of an ongoing dynamic process (we're mutuals because we share and comment on each other's posts) rather than a piece of information stored on a server somewhere


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in reply to @plumpan's post:

I'm glad that the concept of "mutuals" is kinda obtuse in every way that matters because it makes me feel like I'm on a level playing field when it comes to interacting with people. If I post a chost or css crime or comment so rancid that somebody doesn't wanna associate with me, then they can choose to stop associating with me without it ever becoming some massive public thing.

in reply to @lexyeevee's post:

I wonder if that changed, because tags previously didn't show up in replies either.

EDIT: From my testing just now, they still do not show up in bookmarked tags / searches. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

And it's not like the information is inaccessible. The followers page exists. I could theoretically write an extension that queried it and poked a "follows you" annotation into the interface. Which is sort of the opposite semantics of the links hack, come to think of it, since that is opting other people into knowing.

that's creative! I think I'm rooting for this to not take off, since I kinda like not knowing?

like wow the first "if we're mutuals" I saw got me to check the followers page for the first time in months and... idk it's a quick route to the little brain worms of "oh if they use follows to indicate friendship instead of to curate a feed, does that mean they don't like me"