This post perfectly articulates something I am so frequently frustrated by, and it feels especially poignant as a trans person of color. I want to articulate transness with as much inclusivity and variance as possible, it sucks feeling like people dont see your transess because it doesn't function like theirs, or because they masculinize or feminize people with your skin color.
trans monoculture posts are always doing this kind of hegemony. it's a form of play and identity-making, things every immature person needs the time and space to do, but they happen in public fora at scales when it's no longer just their problem anymore. i sincerely hope that stripey-socks programmer-types have space to experiment with definitions and labels with their friends; once their play happens in public it becomes, however harmless their intentions, propaganda of race and class. it is world-narrowing in a fun way for the participants, and world-narrowing in a cruel way for literally everyone else. no white girl with a blahaj should try to suggest, even laughingly, the supremacy of the way she is; that's just white supremacy.
Yeah a bunch of these things apply to me* and I'm not loud about them because it's better as a particular, personal (friend-circle?) thing rather than trying to make them a "lol us trans girls right??" sort of thing.
You're right that people haven't adapted to public internet spaces. Many things that are harmless between friends are harmful to broadcast to the entire planet.
I think it is harmless to get excited about the stuff your friend group shares in common but not so harmless to assume it extends beyond your friend group, perhaps.
(*although curiously I bounced right off New Vegas)
(also monster energy is an unhealthy addiction that I kicked lol like... don't do that to your cardiovascular system)
