Ginpu

honestly i think you're perfectly fine! it's absolutely normal to be nonbiney but still have a gender preference for partners and it doesn't invalidate that any more than like, a bi person being in a hetero relationship invalidates them being bi

and also it's perfectly fine to have not settled on a singular absolute forever-truth about your own sexuality, like, people change all the time! i have definitely known ace spectrum people who flip between "no sex ever" and "horny with needs but not specifically sexually attracted to specific people" so like, there's a lot of space you can occupy here and you don't even need to always feel exactly the same about it every day (and people in your life will learn where your typical comfort levels and boundaries are!)

idk what to say about the partner thing like, that's def outside of my scope! but id like to think that you've stuck together for a long-ass time, and if something was wrong, you're both adults and you seem to be able to communicate openly and directly about this sort of thing, so you probably don't have to feel guilty about any of this, and if there was some friction, i believe you could talk it out and come to an understanding about it!

anyway sorry, wall of text, etc. you're always so big about positive messages and being affirming when you're live, seems like maybe you could use of that directed back at yourself. hope the rest of your day goes okay!

Well, I know a thing or a lot about Autism, if you want to talk about it.

And being Ace, if that topic came up as well. ^_^