π Reflectin'
I'm a solo polyamorous guy.
Took about two decades to figure that out. I never had much of a desire to settle down with a traditional wife, start a family, get a house... yada yada American Dream. Had years where family would pity me for not "finding the one." I get it comes from a place of concern... but what a waste of feelings. I like being by myself a lot. I'm happy with an occasional "fling," then back to my dungeon to play games or drawing away into the night. Or, if I'm up for it, I'll hang out with a small group of close friends.
There is only two monogamous marriage I've seen in my life that's actually solid. The dozen others I know? End up broken. Partner cheats, parent was a deadbeat, mutually abusive couple, etc. I have a lukewarm view of monogamy. It's just one facet of life... that is weirdly regarded as THE gold standard for a relationship. One true love? My love's too vast.
Polyamory ain't a paradise though. The amount of motherfuckers that would treat me as, essentially, a second-class citizen in their hieratical relationship is appalin'.
Being a pansexual man gets me this weird combo of assumptions of "I want sex all the time" n' "as long as they're breathing, you'll fuck 'em." So when I express boundaries I get treated as if I'm fakin' my identity. Gatekeepin' sexuality gotta be the fuckin' dumbest thing to waste your time on. It's better if it's weird as hell.
It's funny when I get a snide remark of being a "womanizer" or "slut," since most of my relationships end up being purely platonic. Or even funnier, being friends with a woman (or someone fem-presenting) gets treated as a downgrade? There's more to relationships than just sex. I gotta keep in mind that most of these remarks come from an outsider's perspective.
Sex is nice.
As a sex haver, I won't deny that.
But, I like hug n' kisses a little bit more.