Just as the bird site was getting fun again tearing up an incompetent billionaire who deserves it, we pivot over to old discourse about disabled people, specifically the neurodivergent types and AUUUUUUGH.
So somebody we have generally enjoy had pointed out the whole ADHD thing where stuff that neurotypicals take for granted (showering, et al) can actually be chores and uphill battles. Suddenly a lot of people are losing their shit and showing their whole fucking ass.
There is this sort of unspoken assumption in society that these daily tasks "shouldn't be" hard and anyone saying they are are just too lazy to be considered human. That the mere fact that there is difficulty to be had with these means that they aren't qualified to be taken seriously as people.
The fact that people are still doing them despite the fact that it's hard doesn't seem to fucking matter. The fact that it could potentially be hard is enough to get people to suddenly disqualify them as being human.
Well as an autistic and ADHD type (your classic AuDHD here) this shit is difficult. You are telling a person who has trouble feeling time and is always so busy to do this thing, especially when we have to devote our spare spoons to maintaining a professional sleep schedule (another thing that can potentially be hard for folks like us)? Especially when it's this cold?
We can do it, we did it last night in preparation for our laser appt. However, this isn't something we can just do, this is something we actively have to put work, focus, effort, and spoons in to making happen.
It's almost like there are necessary chores people don't like doing but still can and do. What a fucking concept.
This isn't new either. This shit is as old as time for AuDHD folks (as well as several other types of neurodivergent people).
An example of this in our own past was that as part of our psychological abuse growing up, said abusive psych told our parents to restrict what would be a normal amount of autonomy for a teenager because we didn't like making phone calls (and our parents, being full of anxiety, unwilling to let go [which as a parent we will say is key to actually good parenting], and used the idea of being a parent to cope with said anxiety; they just ate it up).
Using "you have difficulty with basic culturally mandated shit" as a pejorative and abelist backhand isn't new either. A lot of folks autistic-coded (and fat coded) MRAs and used abelist and fatphobic stereotypes as a way to insult them and called it good feminism (so much so that you couldn't even really challenge this for a while without being seen as a traitor to the patriarchy).
It wasn't until neurodivergent cis* women (particularly fat neurodivergent cis* women) started speaking up and rightly saying "if you removed the word 'man' from what you just said you are basically talking about me, and you are telling me that people who have difficulties like mine deserve to be mocked."
Don't misunderstand, MRAs very much deserve to be mocked, but there's no fucking reason to play in to "lol, they like cartoons and have difficulty with basic life stuff; no wonder they will never be loved, they don't deserve it."
And that's what is pissing me off about this whole mess. People are once again using some shit or other other (i.e. bad faith actors misinterpreting what abelism is) to push back and resume this acting like it's somehow sacred and that the very idea that people could even potentially have difficulties with this is "(SJWs/Wokeness/etc) going too far."
ETA: The anti SJWs on tumblr a decade ago did the same thing with fatphobia, being viciously anti-fat and acting like their very existence was a public health issue. That considering fat people human (and even attractive) was a moral failing.
It's almost as if these pushbacks are being used by others to give them an excuse for being their worst self.
* It had to be cis women who pushed back since many other cis women found doing these things to be sacred. If a trans woman spoke up against this, their womanhood would be instantly disavowed even by people who should know better.