When I was a kid my parents always wanted to help, to the point where I swear they would have an anxiety attack if I did the most menial tasks myself. There are things people take for granted kids should be able to do that we weren't allowed to do because of their anxiety issues and a need to feel helpful. Emotionally speaking my parents felt oddly betrayed if their attempts to help me didn't work or didn't go according to their script.
They didn't want to help, they just wanted to feel helpful.
We say that because a lot of people out there don't make this distinction. So so many people fall in to the same pattern as my parents that it makes actually effective emotional support a rarity.
(And among those who are effective, they are often drained and socially traumatized for being reduced to rhetorical punching bags and trauma dumpsters, but that's a whole different post).
We post this because quite frankly, people really need to learn the difference if we're going to start being an actual community rather then just a bunch of traumatized individuals, systems, and social clusters who constantly walk on eggshells due to fear of mutually assured destruction via callouts.