another day, another trawl through the tumblr plurality tags and simultaneously feeling for these kids while also going "at some point you NEED to learn how to separate your sense of validity and worth from what other people think"
I'm in my 30s and I still haven't figured out to do this. How can I, when I'm disabled to the point of not being able to operate independently and my survival literally depends on other people thinking I'm valid and worth giving a damn about enough to take care of me? Just about the only thing I know right now is that when I stand up for myself and assert how I feel, I get discarded in an instant. Relying on others for my sense of worth is an ingrained survival strategy. How the hell am I supposed to change that when embracing myself inevitably results in loss of support I cannot afford?
