Hypatia

@HypatiaPhoto

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25, white-Latinx, plural trans therian photographer and musician. Anarcha-feminist. Occasionally NSFW

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Hypatia @HypatiaPhoto11/12/2023, 11:59 PM

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Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy11/12/2023, 11:40 PM

there's a lot of very online Discourse about self-diagnosis and medicalization and romanticization and various ways of over-identifying with your mental illness

but out in the real world there are just so many people who desperately need to hear that the thing they're experiencing has a fucking name and isn't an objective perception of a terrible reality or a shameful failure of moral fiber

however grating the Internet thinks it is to hear someone wax poetic about their triggers, you gotta understand, this is by far the most comfortable way to learn someone's triggers, compared to all the other ones

#mental health #discoursey

Lupi @lupi11/12/2023, 11:44 PM

fun anecdote

i completely inadvertently changed someone's world by talking about my autistic childhood. i was idly rattling off anecdotes and mentioned that when i was but a calf, i could not stand something about fluorescent lights, either the buzz of the ballast or the near imperceptible flicker. they had an autistic daughter of their own and i had just revealed a trigger that had been entirely unknown to them about why she was having a hard time in some places when they went out.

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🌷 doodlemancy 🌷@doodlemancy11/13/2023, 5:23 PM

i'm defs at the point where a lot of Cutesy Relatable ADHD Content makes me feel a little bit middle-schooler-looking-at-last-year's-school-photo but i'm in a vastly different place in my little journey than a lot of people. and being freshly diagnosed or something makes you wanna talk about it all the time and bonk your diagnosis against everything you encounter like an item in a point-and-click adventure, because it already solved several mysteries for you. i think as usual, people have a hard time differentiating Objectively Annoying/Harmful Behavior from something that's just not for them, and it's like... don't get mad at Sesame Street for singing about the alphabet, okay???

Ren @renlong11/26/2023, 2:41 AM

"being freshly diagnosed or something makes you wanna talk about it all the time and bonk your diagnosis against everything you encounter like an item in a point-and-click adventure, because it already solved several mysteries for you"

This is such a brilliant way to put this!!

Ren @renlong11/26/2023, 2:40 AM

Some of that "this is my fault" shit is so hard to erase without hearing a diagnosis. I have an anxiety/depression diagnosis and there have been many times when I've went crying to my therapist about how I'm not good enough and I'm not trying hard enough and she had to be like "You're trying plenty hard, you just have a disorder, remember?" And I got diagnosed basically the first day I went to therapy.

I do tend to get irritated with the "if you do this you DEFINITELY HAVE ADHD" tik toks but you're so right, most people need to hear that they're not alone, as cliche as that sounds. And even if you're not labeling it 100% correctly (my husband's diagnosis went from ADHD to autism later in life) it's still comforting to know it's A Thing that people have that you can get help for.