I don't honestly think it's a coincidence that there's a lot of Colorado homies that stop showing up locally despite local FGC heads praising our scene, and it's largely because we treat people like a toddler treats object permanence.
When my day job was running events at another venue, I had a 6 month period I was forced to run a game I didn't care for, for a scene that hated me by extension of my venue, and miss my own locals. My first time back in our preferred venue in six months for a regional tournament? After I played my 3S bracket match: "Oh is it your first time here?"
I had been an active player (dabbling in also every game at some point) and tournament organizer for the scene for 4 years at that point.
If you're showing up regularly and playing, hell yeah cool! But no one checks in on you in between locals. The only reach out are @ all pings inside a discord server to "hey show up."
A couple dear friends have noted on their personal social media accounts recently feeling unwelcome and a nuisance when they do question coming to another local. I don't blame them.
It's a big factor in why I only work out of state these days, and have retired locally (other factors include daylighting in pharmacy with shortages in staff AND record breaking prescription backorders - stressful enough).
The more active I am in my Buddhist practice, the more I think it really shouldn't be that way. But then also I've felt for a long time people only tolerated me in the local scene due to the work I did. I'm not owed friendship or communication outside of that.
Larger name TOs will say "thank your TO, because it's a thankless job" and most FGC heads only take it to heart with the TOs they like. And that's probably okay. But I'd go further and say "treat your fellow FGC heads as more than an opponent at your weeklies."
Because where is the Fighting Game Community when you don't put in the work for Community.