Jaelights

Slooping dupes over here

Succinct transbien musician behind Lorelei and the Ghost.
Bring me your finest Yuris!





Music Links:
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Jaelights
SoundCloud:
https://soundcloud.com/jaelights
BandCamp:
https://jaelights.bandcamp.com/



Writing:
https://www.wattpad.com/user/Jaelights



Business Email if you want music:
loreleiandtheghost@gmail.com



Profile Pic by @nomnomnami


I was very afraid of how folks would respond to what I said (for many reasons) and as a result I developed a habit of structuring all sentences and statements in a way that doesn't leave a lot of space for responses.

It's funny to me because I think some folks read my longer posts and think, "oh, cool, you can write in a way that feels like presenting". Nope, this is just how I talk 90% of the time.

Why bring this up? Well, I think it served me well for a few decades, especially because I was a) surrounded by idiots b) no really, complete idiots and c) why couldn't anyone in my life have just been unreservedly okay with me being trans?

...anyway...

These days I find myself surrounded by enough folks who are understanding that not only do I want to be more open with them, but I frankly also care much less about what all the idiots I know think about what I'm saying (ie., I am not desperate for their validation any longer).

But habits die hard :|. Hopefully some day I'll get better at posting my thoughts in a way that invites comment, but I don't think that day is today.


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in reply to @Jaelights's post:

I can relate in a kinda opposite way.

Have trouble starting a conv/butting in one/commenting mainly for the same reasons (+ not wanting to bother the other person) which helped me a lot, but now it's an obstacle when it comes to developing relationships.

Habits sure die hard, but we'll definitely beat them. Eventually.

I hope so! Though...I mean in some ways it's good to just adapt. I don't expect I'll ever get away from talking like, uh, this... At least not entirely. But some folks kinda like talking to me anyway and...well, being prosaic has given me the ability to write out my problems so I can better understand them. There's value in that as well.

Still...it's frustrating at times. That's where posts like this come from. That and just kinda trying to remind folks that we all deal with this, right? So hopefully this sort of conversation is useful :D

Oh yeah it's not like everything's bad. It can give some strengths you wouldn't have otherwise.

And yeah, your posts often are really encouraging! Sometimes, being able to see how others do can really help.
Only possible downside would be that the post format limits conversation in a way, but it's not like it's a loss when DMs exist.