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i do not know when i will be able to walk in the land of the living again, but when i do, i will look back at you with tears in my hollow eyes. even though i may continue to drift endlessly, i will always cherish you for keeping me strong and sending me the right way. every day i spent with you was more beautiful than anything i had been before.
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nb trans autistic furry plural system of 5-ish. occasionally makes art stuff and game things, but we mostly post dumb shit. ms paint and comic sans haters beware!
the lying about being called a man is incredible, but calling people talking about racism "clout chasers" is out of the park
LIKE WHAT !?!??!?!?!
Imagine chasing clout on this website. Good god
it was so funny (/neg) being accused of that like. lady im giving an example and there's no way you didn't get that. it shows a distinct amount of bad faith to assume that was my intention & was just straight up mean.
what amazes me I think is that it never once occurs to people like this that behaviour of this kind is exactly what MEANS you have to make such generalisations - because it's impossible to have any solidarity with white queers when so many of us can behave like this at the drop of a hat @_@
SERIOUSLY ๐ญ Like, this is a person I used to follow and generally like, I've played her games on stream and promoted her work on other socials (not just here), like if even someone I thought was pretty decent could fuckin do THIS, how the hell am I supposed to extend the benefit of the doubt to any randos who pop into my notifications
Same ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ And in the end, what the hell was all this about? An Italian cop who cried about losing a boxing match?? ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
it's a little weird to me seeing other white queer people essentially do the same weaponized tears thing to poc as the transphobic cis women who have trouble coming up with the right slur to call me.. like you've got to realize what you're doing at some point right. especially when it's what the post you're commenting on is about.
Right??? Like, how the hell do you not recognize this EXACT BEHAVIOR that TERFs and trans/homophobes and other complete fuckin shitheads pull on you?? How much obvious does it need to get before you hear your own voice???
The complete lack of self-awareness is what whiteness enables. Like there are so many steps that people have to do to overcome those deficits, and it's very clear when some people just won't do the work, or they stop after a very superficial pass over themselves and think they've done it all.
It makes them dangerous to be around because they will weaponise things at the drop of a hat rather than do the work - whiteness is that strong of a drug. They will do anything to not lose that (narcissistic) supply.
They will fly into a rage when they don't get it. They will vandalise any amount of networks that could work well through solidarity, but which they would rather burn down than to not be made the (white) center of everything.
It's potentially complicated when people are marginalised in some way and also white, because they can mistake the work they have done on those others forms of marginalisation, as also being equivalent to working on whiteness. But it isn't.
And again, whiteness is a hell of drug, so then you can get queer white people who will still insist on wanting to be validated or made exceptional by POC, and when that (narcissistic) supply isn't forthcoming, their fragile sense of self is threatened, and they lash out. And again, they will try to trash any number of networks in the process.
I mean none of knowing the pattern or dynamics of this makes it feel better to be on the end of that kind of lashing out. Sorry to see you were targeted.
i disagree with your use of an ableist psychiatric framework and i propose that the "narcissism" comes much more from tangible economic benefits of being white and thus being the default human under white supremacy, which then feedbacks to a sense of humanity that explicitly excludes nonwhites bcuz it's reinforced and fed back at every level of white-suptemacist society. base ๐ superstructure
Narcissism is both a process and a spectrum. So firstly, as a spectrum, there is a healthy level of narcissism that we all have that enables us to take in praise, and as the developmental psychologists might say, feel "great" about ourselves. And then there is unhealthy narcissism, where a fragile sense of self leads to behaviours that are ultimately self-defeating - like lashing out when that fragile self is threatened by a lack of mirroring.
It's also a process, because it occurs dynamically in relationships. In this case, it's a feature of whiteness and how white people expect POC to center them, to prop up their fragile sense of self - which is built on unearned privileges.
We are talking about white fragility here, and that is a social and relational process, which is where narcissistic process comes into play.
Like all processes it's open to change, because it's dynamic and relational. However, it's generally going to depend on the person with more power seeking help for the way they feel about not being centered (whiteness) and so on.
that seems like a framework grounded in idealist notions of morality and the socially appropriate amount of selfish/lessness. as well as associating "clinical narcissists" (itself only a coherent category as defined by capitalism; most frequently people with a problematic response to systemic trauma) with racism. i would be interested in discussing this further when im off the clock and in a separate post so that we don't blow up renkon's notifs if you're open to engage with me
Actually, no, because I see you are a tankie. I have friends from Hong Kong who have suffered a lot because of the CCP, and I would rather not engage with their supporters.
Wow. You seem to have completely lost the plot.
There are many people from Hong Kong who were and are targeted by the CCP for taking part in pro-democracy protests.
There's an entire migration pathway to the UK for asylum seekers from HK specifically because of the national security law imposed on HK by the CCP. That's how repressive the situation has become.
And as for ableism, good grief! Just because someone uses terms like "narcissism" or "fragile" doesn't mean they are an ableist! We are talking about patterns of behaviour that repeatedly surface between white people and POC, and which reflect on the way white people have been implicitly taught to expect service and validation from POC. I think it's pretty clear to most people that these relational dynamics are about.
Nonetheless, I was unpacking that here in response to that other reply, before I realised I was talking to a talkie.
Anyway, I don't give a fuck what random strangers think about me on the Internet, but it's bizarre to have it in for refugees from Hong Kong who have had to flee persecution from the CCP. These people aren't fascists!
I mean, the Hong Kong pro-democracy protests are frequently drawn on by Antifa groups in other parts of the world as models for how to organise, for tactics used, all kinds of inspiration!
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2019%E2%80%932020_Hong_Kong_protests
It's truly bizarre that you think that those protests were about fascists supporting fascism?! I have no idea what you are on about.
Thank you for this perspective too, I have not thought much about the implications of "clinical narcissism" in these contexts. It is quite easy to slip into ableist mindsets without the proper understanding (which tbc I do not lol, so something for me to keep in mind for sure)
or they stop after a very superficial pass over themselves and think they've done it all.
the amount of spaces where this is the default position. and they'll make the same jokes, make the same arguments as openly-bigoted people but it's 'ironic' now or it's hidden in leftist language. as if that's not exactly how crypto-right folks act?
Mae with the incredibly clarifying comments as always, I appreciate your insight ๐
Thanks, but I'm just sorry you have to deal with annoying people.
It is definitely annoying ๐ญ Tho I think this current wave has died down ahaha... ha...
It looks like they got banned? But that may also just be what shows up when someone requests their page to be deleted, I had a friend leave cohost of her own volition and her page looks like it got banned even though she just put herself in the deletion queue (but the deletion queue is supposed to take several days to give you a chance to change your mind, so Iโm heavily leaning โgot bannedโ)
For me thereโs a banner saying they got banned, but I think that gets put on any page that gets deleted even if the owner asked for the page to be deleted? But yeah, itโs gone either way
"ugh I hate it when people do x"
"HOW DARE YOU ACCUSE ME OF DOING X? EVERY POST ON THE INTERNET IS ABOUT ME, FOR WHY ELSE WOULD THE POST EXIST IF NOT TO ADDRESS ME, THE PROTAGONIST OF PLANET EARTH"
Right?? RIGHT??? I felt like I was losing my MIND, like how is this grown-ass adult in my mentions doing this!!!
what a fucking asshole. sorry you have to deal with this shit all the fucking time
Thank you ๐ญ I'll be okay lol, just gotta like... lay low and post lots of cat pics for a while until my nerves calm down, lmao