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Hermit in the Highrise

born 1990. very skittish. i play fighting games and randomizers. i also like to tinker a lot.


PlushMayhem
@PlushMayhem

I feel people who like, don't feel their art is good because of whatever fucking reason need to step outside the internet and show real people their art sometimes.

Every nurse who saw my Live2D and art while I was in the hospital was flabbergasted.

My grandparents proudly display the lil sketchbook zine I made last year among their fancy ornaments.

The other day my sister wanted a patch for a girl guide leader friend of hers and I didn't have a lot of time so I sublimated one and it had a rough ass zigzag trim that I was like, I'm sorry!! It's kinda rough!! The white was sticking outta the green trim in spots it wasn't great!! And the feedback I got was that it was the most professional thing the other ladies had ever seen. Something I felt embarassed giving to my sister was the most impressive gift she's ever given.

You gotta like.
Get a reality check sometime dude.
Talk to normal ass people.


xkeeper
@xkeeper
idgi

if you don't know the original, i'm sorry. the first part (not pictured because google is shit) is a picture of an artist making a cake and being all disappointed that it's not as grandiose as the one next to it. then this guy (pictured: a normal ass person) shows up.


hootOS
@hootOS

my parents are the abnormal "we can't recognize how much work goes into things" type so anytime i do any damn thing and show them, they're highly unimpressed.

but i showed extended family my racing liveries while at a family reunion in Winnipeg and some of them were saying i should get a job doing that. and like, out of curiosity, i tried my hardest to let them know they didnt have to be so kind because i already knew my talents, and they still maintained i should have a job in that field. like i tried my best to let them know they could be "normal" about my work and they still maintained my quality of work was professional level despite me having not professionally trained.

and here's the thing: its because my parents aren't normal that i thought these comments weren't normal. but they were. my parents are completely incapable of asking questions about what im doing, encouraging what im doing or even caring what i do in the first place. they're apathetic to a degree that just aint normal. talking to normal people about my work got me a normal, extremely impressed reaction and i didnt recognize it as a normal response to high quality work because my parents had normalized an abnormal reaction to me.

so like. dont just talk to people about your work. talk to normal people about your work. it gives you a much better gauge for your skill than "family" who couldnt care less.


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in reply to @xkeeper's post:

im curious if anyone else has ever gotten the "oh..." reaction to their work before like yea most people are pretty impressed by u drawing a picture but a lot of people myself included dont know how to handle the like, visible interpersonal disappointment of your music being annoying or your art being straight up ugly to someone. its not a giant problem or really anyones fault but some people dont dig small cakes and only want big ones and will tell u to ur face

Idk if it's just gifted kid burnout but I got so many shallow compliments as a kid that whenever someone compliments me now I'm like 'whatever they don't actually like it' unless they're super enthusiastic and/or go into exactly why they like it. That's mainly a me thing tbh but it's also something else to consider, I hope I didn't derail <3

I've observed a surprising number of people who won't say anything positive in any circumstance. Or perhaps even more oddly to me, will seemingly only praise things that cost a lot.

Perhaps just skip over them if you want an honest evaluation.

in reply to @hootOS's post:

When you described your folks don't seem to ever find anything impressive, my first reaction was genuinely, "How many fucking problems would a single trip to a therapist uncover and how many do they need?"

All this to say, definitely and absolutely not normal of them, but the most fucked up thing is they more or less trained you to expect those reactions to be normal. Genuinely infuriating, really makes me wish I could do something in any realistic way, shape, or form