Lizstar

Gay Murr Girl

Liz, Goblin, Part-Time Shark, VTuber, retired speedrunner, author, GDQ staff, Sega fan, "Yuri Sommelier", Walking Encyclopedia of All Things Useless, Twitch partner, general menace. Says "Murr" a lot. This is not a place of honor, views my own, etc. Avatar art by me.


I want to make friends here lol I tended to be a lot more insular on twitter, like I never followed anyone if I didn't already know them from elsewhere, basically.

Here I follow a lot of people, and I wanna be friendly and make friends but also, if I don't know if they follow me back, if makes me feel like I am CONSTANTLY ANNOYING PEOPLE by being chummy to them

I love the Lack of Numbers but I really do wish I could know if someone was mutuals with me lol it'd help my anxiety.


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i've on more than one occasion seen a "hey, mutuals can frq myOtherPage / add me on blorpchat / etc." and been like... "alright, i know i'm following them, i guess it's time to load through all the pages of my followers and ctrl+f for their name to see if they're (still) there"
i guess i'm glad that option's there but gods does it not scale

there is in fact a way to know! ... sort of. sometimes.

screenshot of the bit where you edit your personal links - top row is set to read "if you can read this we're moots", second row is set to "yay!", third row is set to visible to everyone because i goofed and it is supposed to be set to "visible to people who follow you"

if something like this is set up under someone's profile, with the personal links showing to people they follow, it can be set up to be a "hi, i follow you" sorta thing. it's set up that way on my page for example! i just goofed in the screencap lmao, it was supposed to be set to "visible to people you follow".

I have this exact anxiety. I think part of it is that I've gotten used to Facebook/Twitter/etc, where there's the like/star button. If I reply to someone on other platforms, they'll often just push the star--there's no reply but there is vaguely positive acknowledgement.

Here there isn't that mechanism, so I leave a reply and there is no reaction at all. There is no way to distinguish between "they never saw my comment" and "they read it, liked it, but had nothing to say in response" and "they read it and were annoyed I was bugging them and are ignoring me hoping I'll go away."

So what I am trying to do is to assume that everyone here is friendly and posting because they want people to read what they have to say and to connect with them. If they actually find me annoying they can either say so or block me.

Liz, you're not annoying at all, quite the contrary. I think you're very cool, funny, and I very, very much admire your taste in aesthetics and games. Also I hope it's not too much, but you've been among those faraway yet important people on the internet who have given me quite a bit of courage and hope in regarding to coming out as trans at the end of last year. Just by being yourself. So, thanks. <3
Hoping you'll meet tons of cool, like-minded folks here. :3

very very relatable... i also wish there was like a way to just like tell people you've seen there replies without responding, or at least a way to easily bookmark them to reply to later cause i have memory issues and just genuinely forget sometimes... i'd feel less annoying if i knew people were for sure seeing my stuff. Don't need a 'like' or a response but it's just nice to have any kind of validation/response