No one gets to tell you who you are.
Essentialism like that and DEMANDING peple to fit their hierarchies is very silly.
Reality does not care about their categorization, they do not get to define reality.
And yet they care so much when others do not fit neatly in their mental models and hierarchies.
Labels are descriptive. Approximations. Shorthands. They are not prescriptive. The map is not the fucking territory.
And if someone is telling you you are wrong at being yourself, they are being just massive pieces of shit.