the desire to play modded minecraft versus the annoyance of coming back to new versions of minecraft after not playing for a few months and finding out that a major breaking game update caused another mass extinction of mods and you have to go crawl curseforge and modrinth to find replacements with the same function but a different author and then you discover that yet another different core project used by everyone has had a fork because the former maintainers were transphobic and by the time you process all of this and get everything set up you're so exhausted you don't want to play anymore
even though ai is taboo on cohost i find that running a crash log through chatgpt and telling it "what's making my game crash in layman's terms" helps a lot when it comes to modpack stability. in my friend server modpack i have about 216 mods and most of them are either optimizations, vanilla tweaks, bug fixes, and/or APIs/libraries. only about 16 of them actually change the game in a meaningful way
i haven't had many problems with the pack, because as long as you know what overlaps with what you're gucci
tl;dr it's not that bad bro, it's not that bad bro just do it bro, just do it bro