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NireBryce
@NireBryce

thinkin' about how much of the last decade and a half can be chalked up to a society that does not understand how to live amicably when you don't have to forget anything.


NireBryce
@NireBryce

had a script for twitter, they broke it two or three years ago when they got rid of third party clients

it'd unblock people after three years, i figured that was long enough they would have grown. true for most. all the non-spam non-harassment blocks would just evaporate after people had time to grow enough that I could deal with 'em again, or they at least were less sharp to be around.

some people never change, ofc. but a lot do significantly. five years or so, three for many.

but their old selves are always there if you try to look. if you look for whatever reason.

and sure, egregious people deserve to have that, but like... i've seen things explode over both sides misreading a sitch five years ago that blew over

there's a benefit to forgetting, that I think gets forgotten about.

doubly so with everything being visible to everyone and so twisting something like that can have outsized effect

which then means communities need tighter webs of trust to not let in people who might do that

which then means some incredibly insular communities who all look and act like each other, because eventually those are the ones who gain the trust when everyone is too exhausted to onboard new people. but usually, exhausted by, the group dynamic because it's gotten so unbalanced.

and i hate how hard it is to concisely explain any of this, why the court intrigue is there, why it's a failure, why the people in it don't see it, why everything is 'highschool bullshit' writ large

because with no way to build structures that actually bind, all we've got is panopticon.


whit
@whit

well, gotta chew on this one and take it to my therapist, who has been hearing about me using twitter as the external memory for my traumatically brain injured ass for a decade


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in reply to @NireBryce's post:

I think this is extremely true. Something that has really stood out to me from Twitter becoming more unusable is two people I know from there, now on Bluesky, who separately wrote about hate-following their "nemesis" on there - just the idea that they're knowingly rebuilding like the most toxic shit of Twitter because they're so hung up on keeping track of someone they don't like. It just really hit me how unhealthy this shit can be.

big agree to this! I haven't thought about how it becomes a panopticon, that makes sense as a way communities could become so closed and insular

also, somewhat related to permanence and change in community members: I wish that social media posts had configurable expiration dates

ohh understood. that's kind of a painful thought, but I think I can understand that. I wonder how much that occurs pre-online, and how communities dealt with that (or just waiting for it to blow over, e.g. forgetting)

What are structures that bind in a community? (online, offline, or otherwise)

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