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edit: we've made an update to this post - see more here: https://cohost.org/staff/post/1627613-update-on-incoming-c

a while back we said that we were planning to update our community guidelines. we decided to do this both because we wanted to make a few changes and because of feedback we got from many of you. today, we're finally ready to share those changes with everyone. the new version has been in the works for the last few weeks and we spent much of that time consulting with some outside experts to make sure we got it right. we can't promise that what we've done will make everyone happy, but we think we've arrived at the right place for cohost.

these changes go into effect tomorrow, June 6, 2023. please note that we will not be enforcing any new rules on posts or comments made before this announcement.

as always, the most recent version of our community guidelines is available on cohost. we have also published a repo containing the full history of our community guidelines, terms of service, and privacy policy changes. this includes a full diff between the old and new community guidelines.

below the cut is a full changelog and our general reasoning for each of these changes. if you have any feedback, please feel free to comment below or shoot us an email at support@cohost.org. nothing here needs to be said and done; the community guidelines are a living document and your feedback means a lot to us. please be civil when discussing these changes.

please note, the following contains descriptions of graphic and adult content:


general formatting

  • we've rearranged a few sections to make the document more clear.
  • the abuse, harassment, and privacy section into two different sections. it was getting a little broad.
  • renamed the prohibited content section to other prohibited content (everything on the document is prohibited)

non-functional wording and language changes

  • we made a few changes to some wording that is essentially non-functional, primarily with the text about the document itself.
  • we also added a paragraph on how to report things.

now onto the big stuff

update on fictional 18+ content depicting minors

one of the largest feedback drivers in our last discussion about the community guidelines was Cohost's stance on fictional sexual depictions of minors, such as shota or loli content. as promised, we've updated the guidelines to be more clear on our rules around this content. we've made a section about this which we've titled "fictional 18+ content featuring minors"

as an overview:

  • as always, nothing has changed regarding our CSAM policy. if you post child pornography or any sexual content or depictions of real-life minors, we will ban you, report you to NCMEC, and fully cooperate with law enforcement.
  • all photorealistic, sexually explicit depictions of minors are also banned and will result in instant removal from cohost.
  • the interim ban we have on sexually explicit non-photorealistic visual art that appears to depict human minors is now permanent.
    • suggestive, non-explicit visual art of this nature is allowed with a mandatory content warning. these mandatory warnings carry additional restrictions on discoverability on Cohost. failure to add these tags will result in your post being removed and a potential ban. see more about this feature in the content warnings section.
  • written content of this nature, such as fanfiction, is generally allowed with a mandatory content warning with two major exceptions:
    • sexually explicit RPF (real person fiction) featuring minors or apparent minors is not allowed.
    • text posts (whether sexually-explicit or not) which encourage, promote, or advocate sex between adults and minors are also not allowed

new rules

  • added caste discrimination to our harassment and discrimination rules
    • thanks to outside parties for bringing this to our attention; this is something we clearly missed.
  • banned deepfakes, or any pornography made to look like someone else without their consent
    • this would include anything from pasting someone's picture on top of porn to deepfake video tools. we consider this content to be non-consensual pornography in the same category as something like "revenge porn"
  • added a basic misinformation policy
    • we'll expand on this in the future if we need to, but for now, we're restricting misinformation likely to cause physical harm, such as COVID-19 hoaxes
      • telling someone to microwave their iPhone to charge it is a bad idea, but not what we're particularly targeting here. if you're going to make a joke, please make sure it won't get someone killed. as always, we reserve the right to determine what "funny" is
  • added a new entry to our sensitive content list for the purposes of content warnings: descriptions of self-harm, suicide, and "suicide baiting" (telling someone to kill themselves) in a documentary capacity.

rationale behind fictional 18+ content depicting minors updates

let's face it, there was no possible way we could make everyone happy here. with that in mind, we set forth to create the rules we felt were right for cohost and as many people as possible now and in the future. we did this by reading extensive feedback from many of you, consulting with industry experts and, finally, thinking about what we want the site to be and how we would best moderate it.

we want to make our decisions and rules based off real-world harm. our stance on CSAM is clear; to promote, pursue, seek, or support such real-world harms will result in a swift report to NCMEC. given that, we wanted to evaluate the harm that fictional drawn media can cause directly, and while we believe that some of it can cause some real-world harm, we also believe that being overly broad with our enforcement could also cause direct harm.

we're going to continue to ban sexually explicit visual media which appears to depict human minors, based on the feedback we received, as this is the area where harm is most likely.

we will allow written media (with some restrictions) and visual content which does not appear to depict humans, as the direct, real-world harm caused by these depictions is less likely. however, all mandatory content warnings will remain in place. any media or post which depicts 18+ content featuring minors which is not banned must have an appropriate content warning.

this means you can post things like cub, mythological creatures, etc... keep in mind that mandatory content warnings are still required.

late night edit: based on feedback we received, we've removed the "human" condition for this rule. while this opens up some new things moderation issues we'll need to work out, it's clear most of you wanted this to be changed. thank you. more info here: https://cohost.org/staff/post/1627613-update-on-incoming-c

we will not be using things like fan-wikis to verify age, nor will we be creating some kind of "ok/not ok" example list. we will judge the content based on appearance by the standards of a reasonable person. there is judgement involved here, but we don't think it is possible to do this without some kind of judgement, and we want to err on the side of not requiring every post to carry with it an exhaustive justification of why it’s okay.

as with most violations, we will start with warnings for violations and take further action as necessary. for content that is "on the edge," we will be more forgiving with warnings. this is not a situation where we will shoot-first permaban you. if you think your content is somewhere on the edge of these rules, we encourage you to continue posting it (with appropriate content warnings if required). we'll reach out if there's an issue.

closing thoughts

none of these rules are set in stone forever. now that we're doing this, future updates to the community guidelines, if necessary, should be able to come much faster. please send us your feedback; you can email us at support@cohost.org

all of us have worked hard on this and frankly, we're bracing for a real tough week. don't be afraid to send us your thoughts and feedback, but please be civil. we will be moderating the comments and removing direct attacks against others.

thanks for using cohost!


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in reply to @staff's post:

if you're going to make a joke, please make sure it won't get someone killed. as always, we reserve the right to determine what "funny" is

/me turns the page on the calendar to 1984 u_u

I'm kidding, keep up the good work c:

hey, thank you for the TOS update! i know things like this take a lot of time and energy so i want yall to know that i appreciate what went into these updates.

i have a clarifying question to ask: under the new changes about suicide baiting, what do you mean by "in a documentary capacity"? is that just meant to distinguish from users on cohost directly suicide baiting others (which i assume is TOS)?

"we're going to continue to ban sexually explicit visual media which appears to depict human minors, based on the feedback we received, as this is the area where harm is most likely.

we will allow written media (with some restrictions) and visual content which does not appear to depict humans, as the direct, real-world harm caused by these depictions is less likely."

I'd really like more information on how this was determined, what did staff base the decision on that one type is likely to be more harmful than another?

I would start with a cursory review of this topic, honestly. Wikipedia offers some brief summaries which can help expand your context by which the legality of the situation interacts with AUP.

Without getting into anything else, there is a legal precedent which demonstrates an existing grey zone of legality within the United States. In the U.S. and Canada, depictions of human cartoon minors is more strongly associated with actual offenders. The logic follows on this cursory level that meaningful separation could exist in a strictly legal sense. Navigate to Obscenity Law though and you'll sort of pick up that this is all based on court rulings, not really the law itself in any legislative framing.

I'm not trying to be rude, but this was not my question at all. I asked how the staff of cohost decided this. I did not ask how someone else may come to this conclusion.

Whether a certain type of pornography is more or less likely to cause harm to someone is not related to legality. I want to know how they determined the level of harm.

You won't believe this but determinations for legal rulings often do depend on independent assessments of harm and risk being incorporated. Case Law is very complex, if they had a deep dive into both academic literature and legal precedent, a combination of shared conclusions and legal direction could be part of the factor.

I somewhat doubt Cohost would provide direct citations / their bibliography. Public record of the decision making process would be cool to see as the transparency would be exceptionally useful for this exact question.

I'm grateful that Cohost has some leniency around genres like cub, but I am thinking the restriction of lolisho is unfortunate and some of the language in the terms contradicts itself with regards to upload guidelines. I will write more on this later, but for now I am liking the way the wind is blowing.

Taking psychic damage every week since this comment for being optimistic that there was going to be a kindness and understanding for people and their paraphilias in an exceptionally queer space instead of anticipating something inane like staff attributing majority opinion to a vocal minority of pearl-clutching bigots and kowtowing to them.

given my own experiences this level of allowance squicks me out a bit and i definitely worry you're creating a massive moderation headache for yourselves but i think i can somewhat understand how you arrived here at least even if i disagree with it. still gonna need to think about some things

Hey, thank you for reaching some clarity on this! We've been waiting a while and I'm glad to see that you understand the implications of going too far with censorship. This seems like a happy medium, but there's one point I'd like to ask about: for non-realistic depictions of human minors, that content cannot be posted here. Is it acceptable to post SFW cropped previews and links to that kind of content? In other words, will you be enforcing off-platform behaviour?

this is a good question.

we're not in the business of explicitly enforcing behavior off-platform. if you make content that would be against our rules and post it not on Cohost, you're still allowed to use Cohost in many cases.

(there are cases where we do consider off-platform behavior though. if someone's a nazi on twitter and comes to join cohost, we'll take that into consideration and probably kick the nazi out.)

in cases like these, a cropped image would still need a mandatory content warning and you shouldn't link right to the full image. verbiage like "find the full on my Twitter/Patreon/Tumblr/whatever" is probably best.

I'll write this down as something that could use clarity for some future version of the CG, if necessary.

Seems fair enough I guess. I know a lot of people are going to extrapolate from this some really awful accusations and implications and I'm really sorry you're going to have to deal with that. There really doesn't seem to be a good practical approach that won't have downsides and is actually feasible to enforce effectively.

I'll definitely be silencing the tags for that stuff. And I'll block the people who post it. But yeah I can't really expect y'all to be actively on top of every single edge case there with all the work on your plate when a lot of it is just gross and not directly harmful to a person

I think there's room to disagree about whether its harmful, but more specifically, I think this actually creates more edge cases. If you ban lolicon and cub stuff, it all gets moderated out. There will be edge cases where people debate over whether their art is of someone who is 18 and 1 day old or a 4000 year dragon, but you will have that kind of debate regardless because lolicon is already banned. By allowing cub art but banning lolicon, now you will introduce the extra factor of "is this character sufficiently an animal now". I think this half measure just makes moderation harder, not easier. You're fighting on two fronts (age/species) instead of just one (age).

A very upsetting thing about furry porn is so fucking much of it looks like cub and "isn't" because it's just Chibi or stylized or in the original art style or a Pokemon of something. If you asked me to go on e621 and remove everything that looks like cub to me I'd remove a lot of stuff that people would argue is not cub. I think any porn of a Riolu feels like cub to me but who fucking knows. Sentient talking Pokemon aren't real or human what is the age of consent for a Riolu with an Everstone preventing it from evolving into a Lucario. It sure fuckin looks like cub to me but people would get pissed if I enforced that.

I personally don't think cub should be allowed but I have no clue how to enforce that without arguing over the ratio of head size to torso size or something. Nobody on here is younger than 16 and there's no DMing feature so at worst it's an image host being linked to for awful stuff happening off site that we can't see or act on Via Official Policy. There's an argument to be made for Deplatforming and being one less website they can use to host an image but it's a lot of moderation work on that front.

Ultimately I think the 16 year olds on here probably are more interested in porn of adults when they make their second account with a separate email address and set a fake birthday so they can have an "adult account" and lurk #furry porn.

What we know for certain is that even if cub could be used as part of a grooming process (which people certainly have done through history via many means) what we do know is that no actual nude tied of Riolus were harmed in the creation of this post.

Like to be clear I absolutely don't like the situation but I don't know a better answer either. Thus my reaction being "fine, that's fair, but I'm blocking everyone I see interacting with it". I'm begrudgingly accepting that I don't have a better proposal

Thanks for doing all this hard work of writing clear and nuanced policy, and the upcoming hard work of explaining and clarifying policies to people, and the ongoing hard work of actually enforcing these policies. Running a site this big is an incredible challenge and I appreciate the thoughtful effort you folks are clearly putting in here.

Some suggested or, ideally, mandated wording for mandatory content warnings would be extremely useful to use with the CW silencing function for users (myself included) who never want to see particular things on here, even with a warning.

I am not really comfortable with the rules as they are; I can understand how the decision was reached, (adding following clause with edit) but I really don't think being permissive in this specific case is the right direction for the site, or the best course of action to ensure user safety.

I am curious about the industry professionals who were consulted and the sort of external review these guidelines have undergone.

i'm not going to name any specific names due to the sensitive nature of a lot of this (and the fact that we were mostly just poking industry people we knew for some volunteered time)

to be explicit: no professional organization or specific Super Correct Science Guy looked at this document and said it was Correct and that, yep, Cohost is Doing it All Correctly. There's rarely such a thing as getting it "correct" in T&S
But we did get some great help from a few industry folks on earlier drafts of this. one of those reviews, for example, pointed out that we did not have any form of misinformation policy - a great catch and something we clearly should have.

in terms of what is the most controversial thing is in this update, we got some perspectives that helped us shaped the wording and got some other notes that helped us land where we landed, but the base policy level was determined by community feedback and the things that were shared with us. we got a lot of feedback.


good point about the CW silencing, i'll add that to my notes.

Love to see rules like this made explicit while still allowing for the reality that a lot of cases are going to need to be determined by human beings acting in good faith. Thanks for putting in the work.

Hi. I just want to put it on the record that my criticisms of the Cohost IP license/policy which I posted along with the November terms update remain standing/unaddressed (expected because those are in the terms of service and this month's changes are to the community guidelines only). I acknowledge this is reasonably of lower priority than the community guidelines related issues you focused on in this update, and I have no desire to start a flamewar or nothin. However I do think this is (particularly in the long term) important and I would still like to see this addressed at some point. I have been writing an in-progress post on this subject in hopes it will state my criticism of the IP policy more clearly; I will probably post this in the next week or so (and/or send to your support address).

I can understand that's definitely the case! However I'm going to continue to bring this issue up periodically (in the least disruptive terms I can practically manage…).

I appreciate this update. On the whole, these seem like very reasonable standards that balance the competing goals of allowing free expression, especially with regards to explicit media, while reducing direct harm as much as is feasible. I don't think I would have drawn the lines exactly the same way you did, but I think your lines are understandable and acceptable.

I am not thrilled with such a loose, judgement-based approach to erotic content removal, and would personally prefer for there to be some explanation of how you will determine whether a given image falls afoul of these rules, particularly with regards to non-realistic visual art. As I'm sure you're aware, the opinions of "reasonable people" vary widely on this type of issue, and most people feel that their position is the only reasonable one.

You will necessarily need to either come up with more specific (potentially secret) rules as reports come in, or else make somewhat arbitrary ad hoc moderator decisions for each report, resulting in an inconsistent and frustrating process for both erotic artists and good-faith reporters of potentially infringing content. I was hoping you would have created a clear, robust policy here, rather than leaving it to either of those scenarios.

I am somewhat sympathetic to that argument, but ultimately I don't think that having a set of rules you can point to will make moderation more difficult overall than leaving each instance of up to the personal discretion of the moderator who happens to review the report (even if all these reports are going to the same person for now). On the other hand, I think it will be significantly more frustrating for a poster to be told that an illustration was removed because a moderator just thought it looked like it might depict a minor, or for a reporter to be told that a reported illustration was not removed because it just didn't look enough like a minor to the moderator. I think it's much easier to argue with and complain about moderation decisions when they're purely vibes-based than when they have clear rules behind them.

If the concern is that someone will carefully design their illustrations to not break any rules, then either there is a hole in the rules, which can be amended, or else they're actually just making art that is acceptable to post, which seems like a positive outcome.

(Additionally, I will note that allowing erotic illustrations of non-human characters which appear to be underage is already inviting a tremendous amount of rules-lawyering. I expect staff is going to have to litigate at length how many non-human features a character has to have before it becomes allowed, and will end up reading many lengthy explanations of why a given character should not count as human.)

ETA: If this wasn't enough words from me on the subject, I'll also link to my comment in favor of clear, robust rules from when this subject was first broached seven months ago: https://cohost.org/staff/post/177042-cohost-patch-notes-v#comment-9fd4d979-c922-4d55-bde7-33b8036e477e
As I noted there, clear and nuanced rules are useful for good-faith users who want to know whether this site is safe for them. Otherwise, potential users may either stay away due to a worst-case interpretation of the rules, or else may interpret the rules optimistically and then be blindsided when they find out certain content is or is not allowed.

wanted to second the call for clearer guidelines if possible.
i have pOCD. my obsessions make it really hard to determine what a "reasonable person" would consider to be cub, and even though i'm the least likely person to commission/create/repost it because i have those obsessive thoughts, having those guidelines laid out just a little more clearly (with, of course, the understanding that they need a lot of mod wiggle room, not asking for head ratios or anything) would help me feel a lot more comfortable creating erotic work.
semi-related, didn't want to make another comment: really appreciate the stated position of warnings as action for gray-area works. i waste so much time thinking about whether or not things are Okay To Do Because It Toes A Line that knowing mods are also working in good faith on those interactions (where, again, most of my worrying just ends up being for naught, and what i thought was crossing a line was in fact standing about 20 feet behind it) is really helpful. thank you!

Thank you for the update. Whilst some of these decisions were hard (and some here clearly disagree), I find that it strikes a healthy balance in a way that allows media posted in a capacity which some may found cathartic or empowering, whilst restricting other content which bares higher risk of causing harm.

I won't elaborate as to what, for privacy and safety reasons, but as someone who has experienced trauma that didn't involve the use of fictional media, I have found catharsis in media related to my particular trauma, generally speaking. For those similar to myself, media which seeks to explore their trauma in a fictional setting can provide a sense of catharsis, allowing them to "retake control" through fantasy.

For those who have experienced trauma that involves fictional media, whatever the content may be therein, it may be difficult to understand this point of view. For them, their trauma started with media, and therefore it can never end by it. As a result, it may be difficult to accept the existence of such content, in any capacity, as uplifting or empowering.

But this is why content warnings exist. And why I think Cohost's official stance on certain forms of media in particular is that they are allowed conditionally with such warnings applied.

And why I thank Cohost for taking the time to properly implement rules as opposed to taking the easier yet more destructive "way out" to content guidelines, whether or not it affects those in @staff.

I've seen this argument a lot of times, and I have to ask--why exactly does it have to be published on cohost in particular? A lot of people keep journals as part of therapy, write letters they never send, etc. I can understand art therapy 100%. Is there a reason it has to be posted here though? There is a difference between engaging with those fantasies on your own for therapeutic reasons and posting it on a public website. I don't think this is enough of a reason to allow it to be posted here in particular, that's not the same as condemning people for doing this sort of thing on their own to work through their trauma.

While my trauma isn't pertaining to CSA I will say that it's not just cathartic to create writing about [my own traumas] but also to read writing by other people who experienced the same traumas. The more rare and stigmatized the trauma the more impactful it is to find someone else who understands.

For instance, this short fictional story by a cult survivor was cathartic for me to read:

https://hardcrackers.com/maos-children/

I'd argue in this particular case (because I don't think all types of trauma are going to have the same effect here, a realistic CGI movie about a cult, even if it showed horrific violent abuse, would be fine, one showing CSA in graphic detail would be illegal) that this would be better suited for private support groups in that case. Both for the safety of the people posting it and for the others on said public site.

This is a fair comment, at surface level. It doesn't have to be posted anywhere, per say. But sometimes it's not the act of creation, but consumption that is cathartic. And other times it's not just the creation, but the open expression of it, that's cathartic,

Not everyone can create. Not everyone has access to the tools to do so. And even when they do, being told that they have to hold it in, hide their work, has the opposite effect. — It can make them feel dirty, feel worthless; it can make them feel that by needing that outlet they are somehow "inferior" or, in worse cases, akin to their very abusers for creating or consuming media which seeks to reframe their abuse for empowerment.

Again, being general here, and not expressing explicit support nor disapproval for the subject matter therein, but generally speaking: not everything works for everyone. Writing letters you don't send doesn't always work, and sometimes makes you more upset that you can't say those words outright. Creating art that is meant never to be seen makes can make one feel as if it should never have been created at all.

The benefit becomes outweighed by isolation; sharing such art is sharing in one's trauma. Whether the victim themselves made said art or not is irrelevant as long as it seeks to explore said trauma in a fictional and healthy manner; sharing that art, and interacting with others who do the same, allows victims to feel a sense of community. To feel like they're not alone.

If any work that seeks to explore trauma of an uncomfortable manner for gratification, catharsis, or empowerment is deemed "immoral" — if it is deemed wrong, and is demanded to be silenced — it can inadvertently end up isolating victims even further, not just from the general public, but from fellow victims of like trauma. It can induce a great deal of lasting psychological damage having to see and hear what their peers think and feel about their coping mechanisms behind closed doors, and when platforms actively carve out rules intended to prohibit such content, it can feel as if those opinions have suddenly been validated, and made unequivocally "correct", no matter how right or wrong they may be.

In there absolutely worst case scenarios, such psychological trauma may induce intrusive thoughts, which can lead to victims becoming abusers themeselves. A fallacy of hopelessness and shame, isolation upon isolation, building up into one destructive end result.

Finding ways to allow the healthy exploration and propagation of any trauma aligned media in a safe way allows people to explore these topics in ways that may seem strange or deeply uncomfortable, if not outright distasteful, whilst providing safety and assurance from a platform that they themselves have done nothing wrong for the very act of doing so.

Think of it this way: both knives and guns can kill, but one of them was designed to. The other has a broad range of uses. Some of those uses may seem strange or unwieldy, but it doesn't make the knife bad itself, nor does it make the act of giving someone a knife tantamount to sin. — Can it be abused? Yes. But is it fundamental to its existence to be used for abuse? No.

To put it another way, whether or not this content is on Cohost, it will exist. But what is better; allowing this content, conditionally, in a safe environment based on a large amount of community feedback? Or forcing it onto platforms where it's back-to-back with real, legitimately harmful materials, out of some moral-reasoning that it might as well be "No different"?

Similar to my reply to Shel (because this popped up while I was writing it), I think that's a good argument for a private support group. I don't think it's a good one for posting on a site like cohost where the content that makes you feel safe makes others feel less safe, and that content you make can be used to hurt others (even if it's through no fault of your own).

Edit: I'm just putting this in an edit because frankly this conversation is already about to be untenable with how comments are nested here:

A social media site this size can't design itself around the mental health of people. Obviously it should do what it can, but my point is that if your ability to heal from trauma is on the shoulders of the moderation team here to manage, then that means that's true of everyone on the site. If it makes you feel better to post this content, but harms the mental health of a different abuse victim who does not have the same response as you to this content, now you're asking staff to decide whose mental health they want to support. That's far too much to put on people who have a website to run and no training in mental healthcare. This is the biggest reason I don't think a large community should base its decisions on something like this. Does that mean this particular space could become less useful to you as a result? Maybe. But someone else out there is having that problem with the rules as they are right now too. And you could both have that problem if the site shuts down next year, five years from now, whatever. I don't think the argument of "this helps me heal" is actually a fair one to put on the devs.

Cohost allows for the formation of communities and connections with other people. With content warnings and rules like the ones proposes here, people shouldn't be exposed to anything traumatic and the folks who would benefit from being able to discuss/engage with potentially traumatic content can do so.

From my perspective, there may be a benefit to support groups as well, but many people do not have safe access to them either due to lack of funds, or simple lack of safety given the rising levels of stigma involved.

To me, this set of rules attempts to thread the needle to keep the community safe in a number of directions, given the specifics of 'safe' can involve contradictory needs for different people without that kind of support in the rules.

I just did an exit to my post because at the time there weren't replies and I hadn't fully articulated my point (and this site has comment nesting problems), so I'll direct you to that. I disagree though, that isn't how a site like this works. That's not a private community and a public community is a poor place to navigating that kind of thing. And lack of funds seems irrelevant to me, this could simply be a private chat, a private forum, email chain, webring, whatever.

I've seen on Twitter how private chats go down. That's still a form of isolation, only in groups rather than individual. There's been many a callout over ridiculous things that claimed groups of people were doing one thing or another. A big argument is that "If it isn't that much of a problem then why do you have to keep it private?".

Cohost is a social media platform. That means it's going to, by nature, consist of communities and individuals which may not always disagree. The entire purpose of social media is to share. This isn't a forum or a Discord or a private chat. It's a public space filled with varied lives.

It's up to cohost staff to cultivate the platform they wish to create. If a sizable portion of their user base advocates for such content, then it's up to them to consider whether allowing that content would provide any benefit, and conversely, whether banning it would cause any harm. Both to its users and its community.

Even more, Cohost by nature only shows you content and people you subscribe to. If you are getting unwanted content which makes you feel unsafe in your feed, you have the option to unfollow the people who shared the content, block the people who created the content, and curate your experience.

It's WYSIWYG but WYFIWYG:
Who You Follow Is What You Get

If you are following some who creates or shares content which upsets you, and it does so so strongly as to outweigh any benefit of following said person, then perhaps it is for the best, as it is clear that person wasn't as god of a fit for you as you might have thought.

A lot of this boils down to treating Cohost like it's Twitter, as if an algorithm is going to post copious amounts of c** porn in their timelines untagged because a few of the people they've instinctively "followed back" liked the posts.

It's not, and there's a lot of behaviors which need unlearned if one wants to form a healthy relationship with their social media viewing habits.

Not sure if this reply was before or after my edit, but my edit is basically the last point I want to make here and CWs don't really fix this for me.

Edit: to further clarify though, I don't think it's fair for you to decide what makes other people feel unsafe. I've spoken to a lot of people who feel unsafe being on a site that even allows this content because of the audience it can attract.

As per my most recent response, if Cohost wants to allow said content without attracting other crowds, it's up to them to make Executive Decisions in regards to moderation on the platform.

And the inverse argument can be made about feeling safe. Others may feel unsafe on a platform which takes a hardline stance against it.

People are vibrant and varied. Not everyone has the same needs.

Running a platform as this requires nuance and careful decision, if it wants to meet the needs of its users whilst causing the least amount of harm.

"Don't throw the baby out with the bath water."


This conversation is causing me fatigue because my chronically fatigued autistic ass was just trying to answer your question in genuine, and it seems you aren't happy with that answer, so I'm not going to be replying much longer.

It was hard enough as is making the original comment in such a general capacity.

I said I made the points I wanted to make, there's genuinely no need to feel like you have to do more than you want in response. I'm not looking to upset people, I'm looking to make the points I think make sense for community moderation and we don't have to agree.

The more I think about this tighter the knot in my stomach has grown and the more uncomfortable I am with the line having been drawn where it is, and in the fashion that it has been drawn. I don't see what people banning sexual depictions of underage humans helps that explicitly allowing sexual depictions of underage furries doesn't harm just as much.

Other than lightening the moderation workload somewhat I don't see any benefit to this at all. I am not comfortable sharing the site with people who post or consume this material. Even if the intent is solely out of allowing traumatized people to publicly share art that helps them with trauma, you are still going to get people who come here specifically to post and enjoy the closest thing to child pornography they are legally able to get, sourced from a website that explicitly allows children to join it, because it is impossible to differentiate between the two. Even with the most robust possible filtering tools in place this is not a situation that seems tenable or safe.

Even if this were a decision only made to lighten moderation workflow (for instance, avoiding debate on which Pokemon count as "children") an understanding that some of this is allowed is going to expose your moderators to a great deal more depictions of sexualized underage characters than a blanket ban would. A general understanding that those things are not allowed would mean that for the most part, people wouldn't post things that would need a decision.

I am deeply uncomfortable with the fact that I have essentially just been told the rules will be loosened (by defining them explicitly and with a carveout) and that I will be sharing a website with that class of people, after months of a general understanding that no content sexualizing underage characters is to be posted.

It is a minor point in comparison, but the point I made when this first came up stands: if Cohost allows this it is going to become known not as Cohost, a generally nice blogging website, but as Cohost, the site that allows cub, both by people repulsed by the idea and people who are looking for a website to only share this material on. A cursory Twitter search shows the beginnings of this. I don't want to be the person telling people to go to the cub website; Inkbunny, the major furry gallery platform that allows this and isn't an imageboard, is generally known as "the website for pedophiles." I'm already fucking getting messages about this on other platforms. Twitter has been able to tolerate being a universally permissive platform because it is (or was) a global platform with many millions of users. Cohost is neither.

Allowing this material is a message to people who haven't been posting it that they are now allowed to post it, and message to people who thought that the website didn't host material attractive to those people, and who do not feel safe around those people, that they are no longer safe.

If I had known this is how things would wind up around the time of the original debacle I would have folded up my presence here instead of telling people to come here. I do not want to promote a website that hosts this material, I do not want to tell people to follow me on a website that hosts this material, and I do not want to be present on a website that hosts this material.

And yet, with the benefit of 8 months of forming community and meeting people on here, I am now too embedded to leave as easily as I could have then. I feel like I've been tricked. Please reconsider this.

And yet, with the benefit of 8 months of forming community and meeting people on here, I am now too embedded to leave as easily as I could have then. I feel like I've been tricked. Please reconsider this.

Strongly agree. If I knew there were any chance of this I wouldn't have established myself here, directed people here, etc. in the first place.

Some people have asked me in the past why I seem to just be here to meta post about cohost. Frankly, it's because until this matter was settled I was not willing to do much of anything else, even though there were some accounts here I wanted to follow. I did not want to lay down any real roots in a place that might choose to make the decision they made today, and I feel very justified in that now.

I had more faith in the platform because there was a clear intent to be a platform that actually moderates instead of not.

I'll remain here for now to see if things change but if they don't then I'll simply go elsewhere. I'm not relying on the site for marketing or a platform, it won't take long if it comes to that. But it'll be a damn shame.

"I am deeply uncomfortable with the fact ... that I will be sharing a website with that class of people"

Perhaps you are pining for a more reactionary social media experience than you think.

I am going to exercise an extraordinary amount of restraint and say this in plainly worded terms: I do not have to explain to you why I am uncomfortable sharing a website that welcomes (and I specifically will exclude people from the following label who use this as a coping mechanism) pedophiles. Not wanting them around me doesn't make me a fucking reactionary.

yeah big +1 to this. been thinking about this on and off for the last several hours and like, i don't exactly think there is any malicious intent behind this decision so like, i'm not leaving immediately and am certainly hoping for a different resolution but uh. definitely gonna be on the table for the near future just for my own sanity. and wishing this had been resolved however many months ago it was this came up the first time

e: And this has already been resolved so, thanks mods.

yeah this is fucked.
not feeling verbose.
+1 to this tho
aloso :
"I'm yet another person who will cancel their Plus subscription if you don't correct your course on your front. I will not support a website that, after extensive deliberation and despite intense criticism, decides to become Tumblr but for cub porn." also

Umm, EXCUSE ME? You're going to allow CUB content? Are you absolutely out of your minds? What could have made you think this was even a good idea to consider?
I am extremely concerned about such a decision with massive implications on ONE DAY notice without any input from users at all and barely notifying us at all?
This is horrific, and I beg you to reconsider immediately before you become known as a site that allows it.

Seems like trying to find a bright line of allowable/not allowable for legal-but-questionable underage content that isn't easily weaponized to attack queer people or just Posters I Don't Like, which... seems reasonable to me given that that's literally the main line of attack against queer and trans people in the west currently.

Don't really have any specific points to add, but I do want to say flat-out that all this sounds good and makes sense to me.

Actually ok, one particular point. The idea of mandatory CW and tag-use for content that isn't illegal but creeps out a lot of the user base is probably the best protocol I've seen for that kind of thing.

Also probably pretty important to note that this is one of those polarized subjects where one side of it is pretty highly likely to have extremely negative reactions just to having to talk about it, and the opposite side that has no problem with it is just fine with talking about it, submitting input, and so on.

Unless you specifically sought out feedback from people who would be negatively affected by this you are necessarily going to hear more from a higher percentage of the people who would prefer to be able to post it. I know for a fact that there are group chats for people to share this stuff with whatever reasoning, and guide each other toward this place; there aren't really any such things for people who can't tolerate being around that first group.

This is a situation where deciding to allow something is going to harm others, but not deciding to allow it isn't going to inflict any further harm on people who might have wanted to post it. The arithmetic of it doesn't seem to make any sense.

Edit: it's one sizable group of people saying "hey it personally affects me in a way ranging from discomfort to actual harm to welcome that other group on the site" vs. "no it doesn't."

You should read responses from other people in this thread answering that question better than I can. People who want to post the things freshly allowed didn't practically have a platform for that under the rules in effect before now; there isn't anything to take away.

if it is that important they can do it elsewhere, with great care. there is no way to invite that without easy entrancy of things and people that no healthy public community should desire.

it's a guideline for the community. if it excludes what you're interested in, then it is simply not a site for you, or at least not a site for you to do that particular thing on. moral judgement is separate.

... the opposite side that has no problem with it is just fine with talking about it, submitting input, and so on. … Unless you specifically sought out feedback from people who would be negatively affected by this you are necessarily going to hear more from a higher percentage of the people who would prefer to be able to post it

Perhaps this is me dropping the objectivity for a moment, as this is more my personal experience and perception but you are deeply mistaken.

I've been around social media long enough that, if anything, those against it are more vocal than those for it.

After all, even being even remotely for it can result in:

  • Having your social life immediately stripped from you
  • Losing sources of income
  • Receiving threats and encouragement of suicide
  • Becoming a social pariah

It's why I've avoided even discussing such topics abstractly, without a direct voice in favor of or against. I already received one threat from my comments above, with a rather hurtful false accusation to boot. And I didn't even directly say I liked/disliked it, I just said I was glad the staff was trying to take a nuanced approach, and explained why this decision might have been made. It is clear this wasn't a decision made lightly.

I've seen people's lives upended for even being adjacent to this stuff. People who didn't do anything wrong, and really didn't deserve it. People who went from vibrant, socially active members of the community to entirely absent.

Meanwhile, the actual, real predators are unfazed and continue trucking on like nothing is wrong. Posting their art to IB or some hellhole of a mastodon instance. Attending conventions around literal children and openly admitting to referencing them in their art.

If anything, there's plenty of voices, on both sides and down the center, that are afraid to speak up. One for the trauma and fear that it brings, the rest for the fear of undue reaction, of harassment and threats which even when proven untrue can completely ruin people's lives.

Adding to the other comments that I really, really don't like the idea of any kind of underage content of that sort on the site. I understand how you got to that conclusion but I strongly disagree. If this remains, I'm leaving. Thanks.

This really ain't it... I came here because it felt safe and inviting. After how things were handled last week I cancelled my plus subscription. Allowing cub now makes me question even sticking around. Cohost has so much potential, please don't let cub be the thing that destroys it.

i've given myself some time to dwell on this, as well as to read some of the discussions made in the comments here.

this strange "its ok but only sometimes maybe" (???) solution to CSAM, on top of the recent questionable moderation decisions lately, makes me want to reconsider my presence on this website.

i strongly believe p*dos are not a community we should cater to. ever. full stop. i would not consider this platform safe for anyone if this really is the decision you're moving forward with. and that's really heart-wrenching for me, because i've told countless numbers of people that this has been the place to go.

that said, the fact that this post quite literally ends with "none of these rules are set in stone forever", and that the people in charge tend to respond quickly to these sorts issues with putting things right does give me a shred of hope... but the sudden frequency of moderation issues like this is really quite worrying.

i guess we'll see what happens.

due to the statement on allowing cub I am removing my cohost plus subscription. I can't directly support a website that chooses to allow cub art.

I see the justifications for why this is okay below and even so I cannot say I feel safe on a site like this that allows cub. Please reconsider this.

Frankly, I'm not super comfortable with the decisions in these guidelines, but I'm torn, because I do understand that the way people process is complex, and while I personally find cub content repugnant, I also acknowledge that there is a major difference between actual CSAM and drawn or written materials, and we don't want to lump something like Nabokov's Lolita or a personal anecdote of someone's own experiences in with lolisho. I think I'd feel better with a mandatory content warning that would be easy to blacklist and never ever have to see.

I do not like the idea of any material depicting underage characters in sexual situations being tolerated, at all. Even if it's furry art or whatever. This decision sucks and I cannot for the life of me understand the reasoning behind it.

I ask you respectfully to please either reconsider or at the very minimum explain in detail what the thought behind this is. I just don't believe "it's not as realistic so it's less likely to cause harm" is enough OR the full picture.

Please.

not much that hasn't already been more eloquently put in this comment section regarding the frankly baffling allowance of cub on here, but i'm joining the group of people voicing their IMMENSE discomfort with existing on a platform where cub is explicitly allowed. creating exemptions with regards to this stuff really irks me- i don't understand how it's not in the interest of greatest harm reduction AND ease of moderation to ban it outright. i have other forums to talk to my friends and while it's annoying and would rather see this be promptly reversed, i have no issue leaving cohost over this decision

Please reconsider this. Cohost doesn’t need to be a place where people can post “18+ content depicting minors” regardless of caveats and CWs, or whether or not the minors depicted are furries. I’ll echo what a number of others have said upthread about this feeling like a betrayal; I would not have invested in having a presence here had I known this policy would exist, for the same reason I have no interest in spending time on Inkbunny.

(So, hey, on that note, considering that this is a substantial policy change sprung on users without warning or any kind of consultation process: if you don’t change it, I’d like a pro-rated refund on the remainder of the Cohost Plus year I paid for, in addition to already cancelling. What’s your policy on that?)

oh you're allowing cub art? so cohost is the cub art site now? so people can use animal people as stand-ins for children, the way furries use their fursonas as stand-ins for themselves? that's pretty disappointing and will probably make me stop using this website. i hope you arrive at a different conclusion sometime soon

I wish to echo other replies here expressing concern that this is going to lead to worse things, not better things. At such short notice, this very much feels like throwing a suitcase out on the street and telling a significant portion of your userbase to either suck it up or move on.

I very much think that if this policy goes ahead as is, without alteration, the site will very quickly become the social site that draws more CP artists in, creating an even bigger moderation nightmare for the site, and further alienating more of the userbase.

Please reconsider this.

i've sent an email to support, but i'll also let you know here that just by saying you allow cub, you've made this place feel a whole lot safer for me. i don't think i'll post that kind of art here, it'll just be on my website and inkbunny, but just by allowing it you have given me immense breathing room, to not have to worry some random stranger is going to accuse me, a CSA survivor, of being an abusive pedophile.

i've had a huge problem on twitter where people would come out of nowhere and give me their hot take due to the fact twitter created this culture where that's acceptable, and as much as i love fediverse, most instances also frown upon it to such a degree where a culture is forming in this exact same way. having an explicit rule that allows cub art will chase off the puritans and prudes, and make those who either don't care or are on the fence just, not bother people like me.

you're doing good work out there, it's a thankless job being staff for a social media website, but i have to say, thank you all so much. this is genuinely joyous to see, and i hope i can use this website, even if it means i'll have to learn a bit on how to use this place, since i'm more accustomed to microblogging.

well maybe you shouldn't be puritans and prudes, you can block tags and block people in general if you don't like it. and no, inb4, it's not "child porn", and you should never call it that in the first place, since that blurs the line between fictional content and real-world abuse.

also jesus christ you've been hounding these comments, i get 28 matches by pressing ctrl+f, please go take care of yourself, obsessing over this to this degree isn't healthy.

or go read my blog post i've made on this subject to maybe educate yourself from a perspective you didn't have before.

my two cents: it's clear that cub/fictional minor/minor-adjacent sexual content is, at best, morally nebulous. when it comes to topics like these, for the purposes of setting out community rules/guidelines, i think it's less productive to ask "is this ok for us to allow on this site", since that discussion is virtually guaranteed to get bogged down in the quagmire of endless subjective discourse and debate. instead, i think it's better to take the consequentialist route, by asking "what good can come from permitting this content on this site". and honestly, i'm not coming up with many good answers to that. i do have some good answers to the inverse "what bad can come from permitting this content on this site" however, such as running the risk of allowing unscrupulous actors to feel comfortable on this site, and making the site less friendly/safe for minors, and people with related traumas - which going off the rest of the guidelines, definitely seems to be something that staff have decided they want to prevent.

given this, i can't say i understand the rationale for permitting sexualized depictions of minors anywhere here. it's entirely possible that there's other factors at play that i'm not considering, or that staff have information that changes the circumstances here that we don't know of. but in absence of both of those, i do have to remain skeptical of this decision. i really hope we can get some clarity on this one, particularly since (in an absolute nuclear - though highly, highly unlikely to me - worst case) the answer can affect my decision to remain on this site (and of others as well, going off other comments here).

EDIT: oh yeah the rest of the guidelines uhhh. honestly, can't fault anything else there. all feels rock solid to me. glad to see that (for the most part at least) the site continues to move in a pretty solid and reasonable direction. yall have done a damn good job of making a Reasonably Nice Webbed Site. thanks for that effort - here's hoping we can keep the momentum up!

EDIT 2: and now the Big Wall Of Text has been anwered. about what i expected. staff stay winning

EDIT 3: hmm. thinking about this comment - starting to realize i may have Posted Cringe. there's a (in hindsight, quite obvious) flaw in my reasoning here that kinda invalidates the concerns i had. might write up a longer post with some fresh thoughts on this at some point

Respectfully, I agree with the comments that having these carveouts do more harm than good. Whatever how much these types of content differs in terms of direct victimization there is still an indirect harm and discomfort of being around the people who do that.

At best "You can just block and ignore these specific kind of people" is something you should have hashed out upfront in describing an peaceful social media before even launching this website.

And not at best....As others said unless you've become THE only place co-existence within this topic even worth treating as an possibility.

So i hope you can back out of these carveouts.

Thank you for these rules, and for having a site that allows people to extremely easily blacklist terms they don't want to see.
I have seen websites start banning easily-blocked material, snowball into blocking more and more "uncomfortable" kinks, and eventually the entire site went down after removing too much of it's adult community.
No one wants that to happen to cohost, and I'd like to think everyone is mature enough to use the blacklisting tools available to them to meet that end.

edit: the ruling changed within hours, so I guess all the csa victims will have to take their coping art to the sites that host real csem. ok.
I hoped this site would be more neutral but I bet feral will be banned next.

do not post anything encouraging, glorifying, or advocating sex between adults and minors.

hmm, ok. so would a post like this one i wrote a while back, where i talk about the value i find in age gap yuri fiction, be considered to be "encouraging, glorifying, or advocating sex between adults and minors"? i'm wondering because that section is worded annoyingly vaguely, and if the answer is yes then hmm that's not very good i don't think

or really, opening this can of worms in the first place doesn't sound good to me. like, is this... something that was actually starting to be enough of a problem that you guys had to come up with a stance on it? and uh, even if it was, the one you ended up settling on seems like it's just pissing everyone off lol

It's weird that essentially, by the rules as they are written, the Vagina Monologues cannot be posted but you can post all the sexual images of animal people made to look like human toddlers that you want.

I may be misinterpreting but I believe the specific wording there about "text posts" is meant to separate posts like yours (which I would say is a pretty clear cut explanation/criticism/appreciation of a work of Problematic Fiction) from posts that are saying that actual pedophilic actions are something you should perform in real life.

I strongly disagree with the policy toward cub porn, and I want to echo a lot of what the other strong opponents to the policy said. Use the reasonable person standard to resolve gray areas about whether a character is an adult, not the way you've proposed here. I've had nothing but praise for this site before and gladly paid for my cohost plus, but if this change goes through I would not feel comfortable continuing my subscription.

Please don't let Cohost become known as a haven for cub porn. It is not healthy for the community or the site in the long term.

just chiming in as politely as possible to say, i am cancelling my subscription, and leaving cohost as well if this goes unchanged, exclusively since cub stuff is now allowed. i'm very much a 'blacklist, silence, and move on' type person in every other regard, but this is the one thing i draw the line at.

"- do not post sexually explicit non-photorealistic visual art of fictional
humans (including characters that appear to be human) who are apparently
minors."

Just curious how this is going to work for something like aged-up content?

Ask for a friend who consumes a lot of Deltarune and The Owl House NSFW.

All in all, a pretty groovy update.

Good, honestly if this place became a place for people to post csam (fictional or otherwise) would have made me leave. But knowing this direction cohost wants to go in, I want to stay and keep being a part of the community. Let alone, I want the best for you, our moderators, so you don't have to see that kind of thing on a daily basis and potentially get hurt in various ways by having to do that to yourselves. Good on you!
I'd wish it be a stronger enforcement re nonhuman minors in art and human writing stuff, but I guess you can't have everything.
As others have said, I don't want cohost to go from "the cool tumblr fork that's filled with a lot of niche interests and hobbyists" to "the cub porn site" and I will leave if it even starts to feel like that.

I appreciate this post.

But, speaking as someone who has no in-depth knowledge at all about the arguments for and against allowing certain types of art (legally, morally, the effect it has on communities, etc.), and going off of many of the comments here, it seems like "hey, we're just telling you about this but it's going into effect in hours" might not have been the best idea?

Leaving aside discussion of any other angle - some users, like me, live in countries where visual art of fictional minors (including cub porn) may be illegal. If it's tagged via mandatory CWs, please consider geoblocking it in those countries.

seeing how FA has handled this recently and the problems that's caused (explicitly: how "I know it when I see it" human judgement is both a) probably the only reasonable way to handle things like this and b) much more ambiguous when it comes to furry art) makes this seem like a reasonable approach to me. sorry about websites

hey staff. not in love with the policy's implications but i do love you guys and i'd rather it be this way than whatever the fuck furaffinity's got goin on. my question is, wouldn't it be reasonable to create an exception to the exception for content along the lines of "i'm 12 and don't know what a penis is" "well it may be illegal but i am going to show you", to ban content that explicitly depicts grooming? i think this would apply to precious little but it would make a lot of people feel better if possible. i assume the rules also cover no discussion or romanticization of child grooming. (have not read the comments here, sorry lol)

Why in the hell would you allow cub? That's a huge mistake, I... I dunno I have too much shit going on in my life right now to write my rationale out right now but please consider this a vote AGAINST that.

EDIT: The reason people hate the FurAffinity rule change is not because they banned cub in general but because specifically they're trying to create a heuristic based on proportions, which results in silly shit like Avali-shaped Avali getting banned despite looking nothing like human children because "x number of heads tall" or whatever. It is very simple to make an "I know it when I see it" rule. Situations where it's definitely cub and there could be no doubt in anyone's mind should just not be allowed.

too little too late, i can't begin to express how telling it was on the staff that they thought the community guidelines were fine. no subsequent corrections can make you forget they thought it would fly

I think is is reasonable to want to accommodate people in countries with more restrictive laws on personal expression while trying not to perpetuate the unintended casualties of censorship. Even sites intended to entice such content have similar rules for that reason, unfortunately. I can guess what group you are trying to prevent the site rules being used as a harassment tool against.

Of course it would be better if you simply allowed what was legal in the server hosting country (I'm assuming 'murica?) and left it up to people to police their own social media experience against whatever their pet peeves are. I'm sure you'll continue to get an earful from those of a reactoid mindset who thought that a general social media website was supposed to be their own private Mastodon instance clubhouse.

I've been using Cohost mostly lurking and just following other cool people, which is generally how I approach social media. With that in mind, I have to speak up. The decision to allow 'nonhuman' and 'fictional' minors depicted in a sexual way is utterly horrifying. Please staff, reconsider.

I appreciate the revision in response to feedback. I wish I understood why this had to be addressed through feedback from users. I am trying to maintain good faith but it feels like this site keeps trying to be as maximally permissive as possible about content sexualizing minors.

I don't understand why we can't have just a policy that bans material that sexualizes minors and leaves it at that rather than publicly relitigate this issue every few months.

To try and end on a positive note I'll say that it's at times like these that I appreciate the robust content filtering system that cohost has in place, and I fully intend to make good use of it in the coming days.

optimistically, with grace: the cohost moderation team has maybe a few decades of being furries online under their belts. the community has literally thousands of years of experience, and has consequently seen a lot more Shit Go Down (especially re: entrancy, community deterioration, etc.). no one person knows the best way to steer this big scary boat and that shouldn't be overly surprising

as for being reluctant to ban stuff out the gate... there are problems from the other side too. we're in a horrible moment of rising fascism and reactionary puritanism and there's nothing good coming from that side either. even plenty of people in the community itself are eager to turn on each other over specious and fractious allegations and there is a limit to how much credence one can safely give any given voice of feedback. the voice of the majority is often anything but nowadays :(

anyway yeah it's not awesome but i'm hanging in here as it's not incredibly shocking that the ride is bumpy either

It's also utterly embarrassing to claim they had mulled over these changes for months only to cave the second a bunch of screeching antis appear out of the bushes.

If THAT is the standard this site is run on... how am I supposed to trust anything they are doing now?

"Just send a rabid mob their way to enforce a ruling to your liking!" should not be a modus operandi for anything. This is completely unprofessional no matter if you think cub is ok or not.

Oh well... at least this happened immediately so I don't have to waste any time here, lol. Sad tho.

Yeah, I was just starting to like this place. But... if they bow down to this, what happens when they come for my kinks next? There's not a lot of point building something up here just to have it rugged pulled.

I feel so sorry for all those Pokémon folks on FA. My journals were filled with sadness and fear for days after 2.7 was updated. People lost their entire livelihoods. So, if they're going to do this, I fully expect them to do the same some day.

well, glad i didn't give you guys any money. i'm gonna find a community that doesn't equate hand-drawn lines on paper with my stepfather raping me as a child.

Clearly, most of the users on here are antis, so even if this absolutely fucking ridiculous decision that lumps fictional content in with actual real life children being harmed was overturned, I wouldn't want to use a site so clearly predominantly anti. So all things considered, this was an overall good thing you did. It brought all the people out of the woodwork and showed me what the userbase on this site is and thus I no longer desire to post here.

I will admit it feels a bit stupid to say this, like who fucking cares what I, a single user who has been on this site for like, a week tops, has to say on this subject or whether I stay or go... but hey! Everyone else is doing it, so why not me!

'Twas a fun week, at least.

They updated their decision to remove the human specifier. Only reason they had it in the first place was because it's way harder to police animal stuff, things get a lot more vague. But they're gonna do their best anyways.

so as i understand it, human child porn is banned, but pedobait cheesecake art of children isn’t, written child porn isn’t, and furry child porn isn’t.

this was all prefaced with “let's face it, there was no possible way we could make everyone happy here.” and i have a question:

the two conflicting interests here are pedophiles and normal people. why are you trying to strike a balance?

as i see it now you’ve basically allowed as much pedo material as you can without opening yourselves up to prosecution for hosting it.

I recommend a zero tolerance rule regarding pedophilia: people are trying to muddy the water by saying that a zero tolerance rule will be a slippery slope towards banning kink, and I can tell you it's not true

I raise a good example of an online space that has both a lot of kink and a zero-tolerance approach to pedophilia and that's Second Life. on Second Life every adult server worth its salt will have a 18+ only, no children, no child avatars rule. they don't elaborate or overthink it or make compromises.

despite this, second life is notorious for being filled with every fetish imaginable and being no-holds-barred on kink. there is no excuse. second life proves you can do it.

lastly, this line from the post:
we will not be using things like fan-wikis to verify age, nor will we be creating some kind of "ok/not ok" example list. we will judge the content based on appearance by the standards of a reasonable person.

this is the right approach. however, you just kind of did the quibbling ok/notok anyway by compromising on the rule w/r/t animal depictions and written content. I hope to come back to cohost corner in the coming days to see a zero tolerance rule now implemented so we can all put this sorry business behind us

Cool. I think that taking a 'common sense' approach instead of a legalistic one is shortsighted because this site will have an abusive or bigoted moderator at some point regardless of initial intent and when that happens a clear delineation of what is and is not 'moderator business' is the best defense marginalized communities will have (and also if this comment section proves anything it's that there's no such thing as common sense). But the clarification is appreciated, so thank you for sticking your necks out there. Okay, now I'm gonna go block a bunch of people.

Thank you for all of your hard work! You put SO much consideration into putting this together- thanks for doing your utmost to do right by people
May you only have to deal with a minimal amount of poorly-intentioned screechy i've-decided-to-interpret-everything-you-write-as-maximally-evil nonsense~

because of the compromised position on the matter, the whole site is now full of posts talking about the morality of loli/shota. I didn't come here for this

people have written a lot about how this makes the site unsafe, but I'll tell you it also makes the site extremely frustrating.

there'd be no argument if there were no loopholes and instead just a blanket ban. you can still claw it back and I will not complain, if you do, that the right decision has come too late. I would be thankful

you still have time to correct this and I hope you do

I understand that there are legal concerns (as well as considerations for payment processors’ sensibilities etc) that need to be taken into account, so there’s likely only so much wiggle room you have on certain aspects. Nevertheless, reading both the post and comments, I think there’s one thing that would do well to be revisited at some point, namely teenagers.

Several large fandoms feature coming-of-age dynamics, especially over the course of longer series. The success (lack thereof) of abstinence-only education makes it very clear that teens are… not very interested in celibacy, shall we say.

That you won’t go digging through fan wikis to verify exact ages of characters is a good start in this respect, but still feels rather… DADT. Like, I wouldn’t say most 17-year-olds appear significantly more minor-y than an 18-year-old; even moreso for non-photorealistic artwork with attendant stylization. Which puts things in an awkward spot where everybody in the room just… doesn’t mention a number.

I have no problem content warning for teens doing teen things in stories, and would do so regardless of whether it was required. I do appreciate that the mandatory warning is something as neutral as “underage,” rather than anything more loaded. (For instance, I’ve seen people arguing that Inkbunny should use “cub” as their mandatory tag for everything involving minors, and, like… no. That term is suggestive of much younger characters and attaching it to teens is awkward at best.)

So, yeah. Some degree of differentiation based on development (for fictional people - RPF is a different beast and I appreciate that you touched on that separately) would possibly be worth considering revisiting in the future. I’m sure it will stir things up if you do, but the flip side is that if the rule is based off the appearance of a character being a minor, the real change is arguably minimal.

(To be clear, in the interest of full disclosure: yes, I have sexually active teen OCs, some of whom I’ve had since I was in my mid-teens. I’m just interested in exploring their lives and telling their stories. It’s gotten increasingly difficult over time to find anywhere those stories will be welcome, and as I get older I find I have less patience for dealing with “this thing can be posted here but not there, this other thing can’t be posted here but CAN be posted there…” For once I’d like to find a place where I can just post my damn work.)

I personally find it troubling to see how many people think of this content in terms of “pedophilia.” That attitude fosters a very hostile environment.

I havent really bothered to say much because during the time, the ToS was still being developed but now there seems to be a pretty solid update I'll give my honest thoughts, mainly about the process (esp the quick correction about cub art now not being allowed)

Idk how to properly word it but I am really noticing how you guys seem to cater towards more one side despite trying to make everyone happy. You are doing your best, i see! And I appreciate that and your hard work. But yet that correction here is funny because this was a result of a lot of people getting mad at you and guilt tripping you for allowing one little thing for other people that they disagree with personally. I feel like that is a red flag if this is how ToS creation is going to work, where you're going to listen to the more loud majority more often and more easily than the minority, esp when the majority is threatening to strip their support from you if you "screw up" in their eyes.

These kinds of users are going to kill your platform if you don't at least try to gain some control in the ToS making process and just acknowledge that you are going to have to make them upset as well. If you want everyone to be able to be on here, you're going to have to acknowledge that they can't have everything, and people really do need to learn to curate their spaces and coexist with others without wanting random sites and mods to eradicate everything and everyone they don't like personally. Because this does often go down a slippery slope of other things such as noncon between fictional adults not being allowed because some people think consent must be visible in some way in other people's work.

I know this site needs support though. And I am just making educated assumptions from what I've seen in the past as this develops that this is mainly the result of needing stable support for the site. I understand that, but I'm not sure why even indie socmedia sites refuse to even consider the "other side" for once when they can provide just as much support for you as long as you give them the proper tools to safely coexist with other who may find their existence on this platform uncomfortable. See AO3 and OTW as examples. They aren't social media spaces, but they do allow everyone even the "nasty pedophile freaks" on their site, and they get tons of support every year to stay up and ad-free. And most of those people donating are the "other side" / "nasty pedophile freaks."

All of this is literally a matter of personal opinion on a type of art however. And many different users here (such as myself) will have varying different opinions about it. Whether you agree or disagree with this, it is no doubt that this debate about lolisho, cub, fictional underage work (and possibly soon, other transgressive work that doesn't involve fictional minors) isn't a black and white situation like people make it out to be. Everyone has a different opinion on it so the idea that it's "common sense" is not true, especially when people making this kind of "illegal repulsive" work are actually traumatized queer people expressing themselves and their sexuality surrounding this is usually the result of said trauma. These queer people can really help support your site if you allow them to express themselves a little bit as long as they put mandatory tags and filters on their work.

I do hope the ToS changes in the future, esp the process of it, and while community input is important, you gotta give the minority a chance and cater to them even if it upsets the majority. Because it seems like, from my point of view, they're not really going to be satisfied until you say all transgressive work is not allowed.

TL;DR: users here need to learn proper curation and respect among users creating work they personally disagree with sooner or alter, and that cannot be replaced with pushing, yelling, and threatening to revoke financial support if you do not do as they say and get rid of content (and maybe even certain users) off of a platform that's not even theirs in the first place. You cannot let users do this to you in regards to ToS rules, because like you said, you cannot make everyone happy and sometimes you gotta let these users down as well to make things as fair as possible. I do recommend looking at how AO3 and OTW does their stuff and how they stay afloat after all these years. We don't want a Furaffinity-like situation to happen the more folks demand more censorship on a site that's not their own in the first place

I hope you get what I'm trying to say here and I hope this doesn't come off in bad faith! I'm just trying to point out a major issue that I've noticed so far, and it seems like it has happened again as a result of users that may not be good for this platform if this is how they'll behave to you over one rule they do not like. This is your site, not theirs.

Weird that it would even need discussion; could just forbid all text and visual media in the vicinity of physical intimacy, of all ages and all species, and just be done with it.. would save tons on needing to bother reviewing and weighing whether it meets =)

I think it's short-sighted to ban loli/shota content on the basis of real world harm. But it is what it is. If nothing else, I understand that there is a cost to becoming known as "that kind of website".

no one i follow/nothing ive searched here has been nsfw, but these stricter guidelines seem healthy to a growing website. I see this is the subject of much debate, and I know I've been yelled at on twitter for in turn talking about censorship being ok in the term of child nudity.

I support what you do here, with other major social media sites going down the drain, this has been one bright spot.