I'm pretty technically competent compared to the majority of people you tell that to, but even just ssl certificates are a pain in the ass.

and now that I got it working, dns broke something because my reverse proxy did not change, even though I'm pretty sure I also didn't change my dns rules.

I barely know how to troubleshoot this, most of my time is bouncing between 5 things and guessing. Most people you tell it to? good luck, unless that's the only thing they're hosting on the machine.

but that's not a me thing; I can solve this eventually. I have the time, and I know it will work because it already did.

however.

it is an indictment.

every day I throw away two to thirty days because I want to do a thing, I get less likely to ever even bother. I do not have the time to waste, or the money to enable me to waste it.

last time I spent two days on something I learned how to weld. Before that, I stripped and re-built my e-bike.

I cleaned an entire garage in eight hours. I built and learned how to use the 3d printer from a kit that mostly was just 'heres all the parts you'll need. good luck'. the list goes on. There's a real opportunity cost to doing any of this, until it's working. But until it's working, the opportunity cost is catastrophically high.

every few months I decide to gamble, and get slapped in the face again. I do not have that many days I can spend, these days.

I eventually had so many tabs that I stopped bothering to check if I still had something open in a tab and just did new ones, because it went off the window. Do you want to know how many times i bounced between websites? at least 180.

(OBS exists now, if you're serious about testing you might have your friend who doesn't know the stack record their screen and active window and mouse position to do a time-motion-study and then add to your docs accordingly)