it sucks because I talk to people a lot less than they want me to, because they have their notifications on
if me being late to reply to you can start a chain where you're serially distracted just as you're starting stuff and that blows back on me with no way for me to know more than once, and manifests randomly in ways I have no way to know, I'm going to only say things that seem worth the risk no matter how many times you say you miss our hanging out online
