Nire Bryce

@NireBryce

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Nire Bryce @NireBryce4/4/2024, 5:58 PM

life advice: when someone is speaking in generalizations, but you're a statistical outlier and dont like them painting with that brush:

Q-TIP

Quit Taking It Personally.

Are you doing the behavior they're describing? No? Okay.

Why did you think it applied to you enough to yell at them about it? Everyone uses generalizations. It's an information-compression mechanism so you don't spend nine sentences every sentence itemizing just what the exceptions are. If you did take that time, everyone would ignore you for the sheer verbiosity.

But by diving in and getting angry about it, you're then putting words in their mouth and it will never end well

#this isnt about group stereotyping and instead about descriptions of things like:#recurring patterns of behavior that keep coming through our spaces #harmful ideas that have taken hold as normal #people venting about experiences they've had #the loudest people in a group get the most attention unfortunately #but yelling at people talking about them doesn't do much more than set that opinion #Part 2 of my 7 part seminar series on Reading The Room, now on Audiocasette.

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Peter Hosey @boredzo4/4/2024, 6:54 PM

“If the shoe doesn't fit, don't put it on.” —Bailey Poland

JcDent @JcDent4/4/2024, 7:13 PM

so you don't spend nine sentences every sentence itemizing just what the exceptions are.

Leftist organization writing anything ever: I don't get ot

Gints Halcejs @Halceon4/4/2024, 7:38 PM

“My son displays a general garment and you claim it’s cut to your fit?” Jessica asked. “What a fascinating revelation.”

ROTSHARP, mirror-ape ogre @rotsharp4/4/2024, 10:58 PM

please

Irenes (many)@ireneista4/4/2024, 11:10 PM

"painting ... brush" "Q-TIP"

we see what you did there

Nire Bryce @NireBryce4/4/2024, 11:50 PM

no but it's now in my notes for next time

Irenes (many)@ireneista4/5/2024, 12:03 AM

hehe

Pixel @Pixel4/5/2024, 12:00 AM

would that i could. would that i fucking could.

TwoAi @twoai4/5/2024, 3:07 AM

Is it TIP to apply this post to the situation where one takes it personally but does not dive in and get angry about it?
I feel like there's a paradox of over-conscientiousness at play but idk, I may be a statistical outlier. (See also, the problem with timorous and reckless people.)

Nire Bryce @NireBryce4/5/2024, 4:28 PM

do what you want with it. I'm genuinely confused why people think that posts on the Internet need to have government PSA levels of work and funding to pay for that work put into them.

it's advice, not diktat

TwoAi @twoai4/5/2024, 8:15 PM

Agree on both points
I think what I'm trying to say is: it is good advice and it does apply to me, and yet I can't put it in practice and I'm not quite clear why.

Nire Bryce @NireBryce4/5/2024, 10:29 PM

:yeah:

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