Noel B

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Noel B @NoelBWrites2/1/2023, 4:16 PM

Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy

Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy2/1/2023, 3:25 PM

had to do a Cultural Competency Training and why has no one ever gotten through to these companies that most communities really hate person-first language

it sounds so apologetic! "Cliff, a person, a human, just like us normal people, if you prick him does he not bleed, who happens to incidentally be of transgender identity" oh my goodness were you just riding on the ragged edge of thinking I might not be a person before we cleared that up

or like someone told them not to use slurs and they got all pouty like "well I guess I just won't use any adjectives ever now, are you a person of happy with that"

I suppose it serves as a useful social marker of the group of people who are attempting to follow what they were told are best practices, and so can probably be trusted not to do something outrageously aggressive, but also cannot be trusted trusted

Noel B @NoelBWrites2/1/2023, 4:16 PM

this is what leads to "people experiencing Frenchness"

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Nire Bryce @NireBryce2/1/2023, 4:30 PM

the outreach orgs are overwhelmingly parent run, and the ones that aren't are often run by people who don't have the thing

(but also a lot prefer person first, just not the internet. I hate it, but, yk)

Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy2/1/2023, 4:59 PM

tbh i have essentially no idea what the offline people are up to, the only ones I ever talk to are my coworkers and family who do not know or care about any of this

Amagire @amagire2/1/2023, 4:46 PM

the extremely defensive posture of those who just want to learn the secret code phrases that will protect them forever from Minority Ire

Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy2/1/2023, 5:22 PM

and now I'm just proving that you can't please these people!

well, except by meeting their material needs, dealing with people as individuals, and exercising a certain amount of chill that people who have Been Through It may be prickly even if you do everything right but this isn't fundamentally about you so oh well if they never do give you the grade you feel you've earned

but try making a 20 minute computer based training out of that

Cliff 🦖 Pervocracy @pervocracy2/1/2023, 5:25 PM

I mean, this same company that wants to call me a person of transgender identity experience also took a year and a court order to put the right name on my employee account

Amagire @amagire2/1/2023, 6:12 PM

as a person of bureaucratic experience, I don't want to come across as a raging bigot in professional settings. therefore what you see as a reasonable amount of interpersonal courtesy, I perceive as 1,000 individual conduct violations I have to grant you a specific non-transferrable override for, every single time.

this might seem like a lot of extra work that harms my professional demeanor by enforcing a layer of resentment between me and the people I work with every day, but it allows me to keep all of my unconsidered personal beliefs about gender unscrutinized, and that's what's important.

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Mors Rattus @MorsRattus2/1/2023, 5:53 PM

glad I wasn't the only one who saw this and went immediately 'oh god not this shit again'

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