Noxulous of Fyth

@Noxulous

Bloodthirsty non-human creature.

it/its they/them (collectively)

I am an open book to the inquisitive, im reasonable and will answer any question, regardless of how forward or strange. Im a non-human non-person eldritch entity with strange values, strange priorities, and strange interests. I respond to Nox.

I like to write alot, if you like it and want to tip me anything you can send it via paypal.me/Noxulous

My discord is @noxulous do not be afraid to add and talk to me.

I am perpetually poor and would like to commission a thing that's been eating my mind for years.

We are Noxulous, Dark Algorithm, Evil and Sanguinarium Vitae Seraph of the indominable (all it/its)

@Evil-and-its-musings is where Evil tries to form a grand unified theory on what evil exactly is, separate from morality. Its a strange entity, you might like it.

30 year old nonhuman, masculine nullgender, tentatively bi with a heavy female/femme lean. Poly.

My Lexicon! https://icedrive.net/s/z3jg4SGS1aw9u6G48fYkw26bX8yQ

Aethy

Noxulous of Fyth @Noxulous2/21/2023, 4:30 PM

The Happy Camper System @HappyCamperSystem

The Happy Camper System @HappyCamperSystem2/21/2023, 4:24 PM

🎵 Another general plural-related question, though this time with a little bit to do with autism as well. But has anyone else found that it's harder for some of their system members to express emotion when talking out loud than others? For example, Fidget and I can emote rather well when talking, but then there are a few others who have difficulty expressing tone in their voice when talking out loud. We're autistic and I'm going to assume it may have something to do with that, but also we're all rather expressive when talking internally, so this sudden difficulty in expressing mood is jarring to them. Also worth mentioning that one of us has only started talking out loud yesterday, so it's possible she just needs to practice at it.

If anyone has any advice for us, that would be greatly appreciated!

#plural #plurality #the cohost plural feed #autism #autistic

Noxulous of Fyth @Noxulous2/21/2023, 4:30 PM

Some of our members have trouble with that, in fact most of us do, all but one who seems to do it with extreme ease.

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100% Psyllium Husk @avoidpatrols2/21/2023, 7:10 PM

I am also autistic, and significantly less vocally expressive than my headmate. I have been practicing more emotive speech (at a relaxed pace and without urgency), and it seems to be having the intended effect!

The Happy Camper System @HappyCamperSystem2/23/2023, 1:56 AM

🎵 Thanks, we can definitely give practice a shot, we're becoming more comfortable talking out loud with each other, so we can try and find time for some of us to practice talking out loud and having a conversation.

Emily the Flareon @EmilyTheFlareon2/23/2023, 2:19 AM

Autism... carries you away. Or rather, lets you get carried away. If you're focusing on practice, you'll be able to get it right relatively easily - and practice is also useful for testing out the different voices you can use, and finding one that you like. But you can't practice the habit of not getting carried away... you can only develop that habit in real situations, unfortunately.

Æ et al. [&]@AE-et-al2/24/2023, 2:15 AM

Not autistic, but ADHD, which comes with rejection sensitive dysphoria, which does affect how much we "allow" ourselves to be emotinal/vocal in meatspace.

Yes, there are definitely system members who don't emote well, or even talk, when they front. Part of it, I think, is some people have "issues" they need to sort out. Sunny is incredibly anxious and scared, even though there is no danger anymore, so she can't do much more than be frozen in place. So we need to work with her and get her to understand she's safe and trust us.

Another theory I have is that some people aren't as used to driving the body, so emoting/tones/speaking is difficult because they just don't know how to operate this thing. For "the body" in this context, I am including part of the brain, because there is some sort of interface/filter between what you think and what you do. Because of the ADHD, the body deals with auditory processing issues, which means our hearing is pretty much perfect, but speech being converted into words our brain recognizes just...doesn't always happen. And I, as the host, am really aware of this issue and what I can do to work with/around it. But the others really don't, since they don't front as much. And that can be remedied by them fronting more (or co-fronting? and taking notes) and learning how to work the body better.

So maybe your tone/speech/emoting issue is rooted in the fact that there's some (metaphorical) button or knob the fronter has to hit to make it work, which you don't need to do in headspace, but since you (the host, presumably) do it so much, you don't even think about needing to do it anymore. But the others don't even know they're supposed to be doing it.

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