I recently began deconstructing old relationships, romantic and otherwise, and ive found my exes would wrong me in grievous, unforgivable ways and then apologize, once, and exoect full forgiveness and trust again. They had no patience for my damaged emotions or broken trust.
Forgiving someone who isnt even sorry is nearly impossible, they say forgiveness is for the benefit of the self but it just isnt... Its a revonciliation and promise to never repeat a misdeed, its an acknowledgement of effort placed to show that they understand the gravity of your pain. It has to be earned, hard fought. If you show resentment to someone you wronged for still being upset about it, you arent sorry, but trust me... You will be.
Tell me your experiences of reasonable grudges you held/hold that people acted like you were crazy for still being mad about.