god, the amount of times I've had to struggle with someone testing a boundary, having to keep a whole watchlist of stuff like "this person looks like they're waiting for the opportunity to cause a scene but I don't KNOW that they're going to, and if I do something now it'll extremely explode and go bad"
the hours and even days spent in staff chats deliberating with the other mods over individuals that had the seeds of a problem but whom hadn't germinated yet, and sometimes never would!
Having to figure out if I was jumping at shadows or if this person really was about to show their entire ass.
it's not easy! it sucks! and in a lot of cases it's entirely uncompensated labor. Thank god that's not the case here, thank god ASSC pay their moderation staff. The most i got from the biggest community was a free t-shirt from the guy's merch shop.
there are so many times I wish I could've acted sooner and realized a problem faster, so many times I wish I'd been able to just act on a hunch, but that's not how moderation works!
You have to make sure you're wielding that responsibility correctly for the sake of your community, and that means "cross-referencing with other staff, watching people, having to make those tough judgement calls," and it means messing up sometimes and then having to fix it afterward.