i feel like
my brain vibes most naturally with relationship anarchy
but trauma means i need the comfort and stability of labels
but also i do enjoy dating people, and like... dating specific people. i love my partner and my girlfriends. and they are specific people who i very specifically want to be dating.
but then for many other people i know, they fall on a mostly continuous spectrum where one could say "equivalent to dating" is one end of it.
and like. that. might be the point of relationship anarchy. your relationships with each person is defined on a person-by-person basis. for some, there is a bit more commitment desired. for some, it could be more casual. for some it's long term, for some it's temporary. you don't need to subscribe to social expectations or norms. your relationships are what you want them to be.