i feel like
my brain vibes most naturally with relationship anarchy
but trauma means i need the comfort and stability of labels
but also i do enjoy dating people, and like... dating specific people. i love my partner and my girlfriends. and they are specific people who i very specifically want to be dating.
but then for many other people i know, they fall on a mostly continuous spectrum where one could say "equivalent to dating" is one end of it.
and like. that. might be the point of relationship anarchy. your relationships with each person is defined on a person-by-person basis. for some, there is a bit more commitment desired. for some, it could be more casual. for some it's long term, for some it's temporary. you don't need to subscribe to social expectations or norms. your relationships are what you want them to be.
anyways im crushing on a lot of people but it's not necessarily in a "i want to date them" way but it is in a "i am fascinated by you and want to spend a lot of time with you and talking to you and hey snuggling might be nice" and some of them probably know and some of them probably could guess
conversely if you have a crush on me in any form you have to tell me it's the law
i promise i won't be mean if i don't reciprocate
and i might actually reciprocate in some way who knows? you won't unless you ask!
(and you gotta use your words too!!! words!)