I'm the first person who would say "I get it", you know?
It's appealing to be justified in thinking that society is systemically broken. It's validating to have someone else echo your thoughts about the injustice that permeates every facet of our existence, rather than pretending like it's "the way things are". It's nice when you're not treated like an insane person for pointing out how people are suffering who don't need to be suffering.
And it's super appealing to imagine dismantling that system and replacing it with something more equitable, something that gives everyone the support, nourishment, and attention they deserve.
It's further appealing to imagine this all happening because an effective group is already on the case, so to speak. A collective of folks who would swoop in, and do what's right even when the status quo says they're wrong.
And maybe is more appealing still to imagine those folks identifying unmet needs within you specifically - and helping you address them in meaningful ways. Even if you don't know you need them. People who would help you break free of the perpetual cycle of misery you're locked into, perhaps by giving you a little push you didn't even ask for, but you desperately required.
And wow, wouldn't that be even better if it were wrapped up in tropes and - yes indeed, perhaps even kinks - that you wouldn't even have to admit you wanted! They just happened. So that's not your fault. And now you're free of that searing, damning judgement that followed you everywhere, even when you were alone.
And now that the world looks at you with disdain and revulsion, wouldn't it be appealing if you were surrounded by friends and confidantes who reject that system in reply - and make that your strength? To have a place where the threat of marginalization for embracing self and righteousness not only rings hollow and fake, but is seen as the injustice it is? And wouldn't that be liberating, to seize upon the elements of self, of desire, of identity that were wielded against you, to grab those very qualities and explore them. Flourish in them. Nurture them and find healing in becoming the self you always wanted, but never knew, and never could?
Wouldn't that be appealing?
So yeah, I get it. I do. I confess I do. For all my getting bent out of shape, I do.
But just - remember that there are some of us who aren't getting an evac, you know? The only destiny we have is to mire and expire. And we're usually doing it alone, at that. So even if we appreciate it, even if it's appealing, it's still rough to realize we missed that boat - or never had a ticket.


