shrugging off someone's behaviour as "just strange" or "weird, idk" is a crutch for doing the hard work of understanding them.
unfortunately, they can inherit this and learn to shrug off their own behaviour, repeatedly distancing themselves from who they are
a couple days ago i realized that my "haha so weird" memory, which tends to [ remember things other people forget, and forget things other people remember ], actually tends to make sense if i allow it to
i forget the birthdays of my friends and family. it's not that surprising to me once i consider the deep-set disconnection i feel with almost all people in my life. i remember an offhand comment from a friend many months ago. yes, because it confused me and left me feeling unsure, and that feeling has extended until now