i'd been thinking about my chosen pronouns on and off for a long time already, but it wasn't until recently that i realized it'd only be a matter of time before i'd (once again) end up adjusting the pronouns i go by. as such,
i think i'll be going with she/they/it as my pronouns from now on! :3c
(if you'd like to hear more of my thoughts on this, read under the cut!)
i don't think i'm alone in thinking it's probably not that uncommon for people to (at least initially) find it strange for someone to want to go by pronouns other than "he", "she" or "they" - be that either "it" or neopronouns. despite the convention's (seemingly) rapid spread, it did take me quite a while to get used to.1
for a snippet of personal history, while playing around with thoughts about my sexual orientation, identity etc. back in my teens, i became to (sort of) see myself as nonbinary, leading me to adopt "they" into my repertoire. a couple of years later, i figured i was actually transgender: i dropped "he" altogether (online anyways...), and have gone by "she"/"they" since. it's not always been clear which of the two i prefer, or if i should go by only one of them - it seems to fluctuate a little every now and then, though "she" seems generally preferred/largely unopposed. but if one thing has remained clear, it's that i do not like being referred to as male.
as for the present... like i said, it wasn't too long ago that i actually grew somewhat fond of "it". i didn't feel quite ready for it right away though - until then, i'd only ever felt iffy whenever i thought about using it myself - so i decided to dwell on it for a bit... and i'm glad i did, as doing so also allowed me to figure out my relationship with my other pronouns as well - turns out i sorta like the idea of context-specific pronouns!!2 x3
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heck, even singular "they" used to feel a bit odd to me, but i found it a bit easier to digest due to its historical singular use
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i know that's probably kinda hard to put into any "effective" use... but luckily, us Finns don't have to worry about pronouns as much in our daily lives in the first place3 ^^'
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we only have gender-neutral pronouns here: "hän" and "se", for "they" and "it" respectively4 - although that still doesn't alleviate being referred to as a "guy", "dude", etc.
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colloquially the latter is VERY commonly used in place of "hän", however; "hän" is usually reserved for formal matters, although it also sees regular use when referring to someone in a snarky tone, or when talking about pets, other animals, sometimes even objects in a certain tone
