What everyone wants to belong to is a community but they keep winding up in audiences instead and I think this is the cause of a tremendous amount of suffering right now.
Right on the goddamn nose with this one. I swear this has been my experience with furry groups majority of the time to the point I don't know if I even feel like I belong anywhere, even in groups that align well with my interest and who I am. Somehow, no matter how hard I try to be part of a community, I always seem to wind up in the anonymous audience, watching vicariously with no idea how to make myself seen or heard anymore.