every time i see someone in a discord casually call themselves an ableist slur b/c they don't know how to do something and think that there's something wrong with them because of it (usually st-- or id--) I kinda wanna take them by the shoulders and go "do you understand that not knowing how to do something doesn't mean you're not 'smart'? that the whole point of learning new things is that you don't know yet and you are trying to learn?"
learned helplessness is. so frustrating to see because people use it to destroy themselves in a thousand different ways just to avoid the remote chance that they'll fail at something, and i wish i could help people understand that the more they just assume they can't learn to do something the more they set themselves up for not being able to.
failure is part of the process. please. just let it happen. you'll be ok. you'll figure it out.
